Brittany Brown

Ah, another great interview! Chiara’s transformation sticks out to me for so many reasons! For her this transformation was way beyond the physical with her body and food; she literally transformed from the inside out. Prior to the Beating Binge Eating Blueprint Chiara felt like she had tried it all. I still remember our first call and how fearful she was that this wouldn’t work for her.

She went ALL in even in the face of her fears and her results speak for themselves. Through the program she was able to uncover and break free from limiting beliefs and fears that have held her back in all areas of her life, plus learn to be with and process emotions without using food to cope or run away from them.

She shifted so much with us that she is now decided on leaving a career that no longer serves her and stepping into coaching…go Chiara!

If you’re struggling with emotional eating or fears holding you back in any areas then this is a wonderful interview for you. Chiara is raw, connected, and real and I know you will both learn and be inspired by what she shares here.

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An Analogy Chiara Shares About Her Journey:

“”The journey is like you’re in this maze and you’re trying to find your way to the other side. You’ll find dead ends, and areas that are working but you’ll still feel unsure, but I feel like Brittany has the map, and she’s looking down like ‘ok take a left, take a right…’ and she knows how to get us out of the maze. Brittany knows what works and she’s going to show you the most direct way to get there and give you the cheat sheet to support you to overcome this. You have no idea how much this will change your life if you let it.” -Chiara

THANK YOU CHIARA! SENDING YOU SO MUCH LOVE!

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In this interview you’ll learn:

-How Chiara went from escaping her emotions with food to being able to process, release, and learn from them(so you can too)-

-Her big “aha” that allowed her be with herself and move beyond her limiting fears and beliefs-

-Her mindset/approach that was the main reason she was able to shift and breakthrough in so many areas (hint hint: she went ALL in, in the interview she shares how she did it)-

-Her tips and insight to do the same so you can break free from binge and emotional eating-

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Listen To Chiara’s Story By Playing The Video Below

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To learn more about the Beating Binge Eating Blueprint or to schedule a Complimentary Food Freedom Forever™ Strategy Call Visit:

https://beatingbingeeating.com/strategy-call

Ever feel like if you just had that ONE thing you’d be happy?

If your body went to the perfect weight…

If your partner treated you how you wanted to be treated…

If you had that…

house,

job,

parent,

circumstance,

opportunity

THEN you’d be happy?

I lived like this for YEARS.

I thought happiness would be found in getting my body to a certain size and then I got there, and TRUE happiness, bliss, and freedom were no where to be found.

In fact, when I was my leanest, I was the most miserable I’ve been in my entire life.

I’ve also thought it was my job that was holding me back keeping me from my dreams…that if I just got a new job or had enough money to start my business then I’d stop procrastinating and give it my all….

Nope, procrastination and the highs and lows still came even once I launched my business.

I’ve thought a dream relationship would make me happy, and then I found someone who literally worshiped the ground I walked on, and guess what…

all I looked for were faults and I projected my internal bull shit onto him even though he was great. It’s not the right relationship for us regardless today, but I didn’t bring my best because I hadn’t done the internal work yet…

I was looking for him to do something for me that I hadn’t yet done for myself.

Then I thought it was money. If I just had the money to get the home I wanted, to have the experiences I wanted, to go where I wanted to go, then I’d truly feel free.

Our company 10xed, I got the nicer condo, travel was more available and guess what…

the same internal struggles still followed me.

I was literally living in the same energy that I was when I was living on a couch struggling to find clients no matter what changed on the outside.

This left me finding an escape in things that made the cycle even worse…partying, procrastination, food…always looking for something outside of myself to not face what was happening internally and not matter what changed in my circumstance nothing changed in my internal world for any length of time until I did the work!

Here’s the harsh truth…

YOU HAVE TO TAKE YOU WHEREVER YOU GO.

No external circumstance is going to fill a void inside.

No number on the scale is going to bring you consistent internal peace past a brief fleeting moment of “happiness” if you don’t have that peace regardless of what the number says.

No relationship is going to make you feel special if you don’t make yourself feel special.

No mansion is going to make you feel accomplished if you can’t be alone with yourself in the large empty bedroom.

None of the above guaranteed to be permanent either, so why stake all your happiness on something that is so fleeting?

Why do we wait to live fully until we are “there” and miss out on all the precious goodness that life has to offer?

If you take a look at the common denominator in everything in your life it is: YOU.

Every opportunity, loss, win, breakdown, breakthrough, relationship, fight, agreement, circumstance, job, yes, no, in between…you are a part of it at some level.

Are some things out of your control, yes? But there is one thing that’s not: the perspective you choose.

 

 

You are the source of everything in your life and you can live fully during the moments in between the destinations you’re striving so hard to make it to and being so hard on yourself for not being at just yet. 

This is not to place blame on you, this is to inspire you to take personal responsibility so you can step into your power, release self sabotage, and be all that you are meant to be.

We must not rely on the constantly changing to make us happy when we have the power to take personal responsibility for our part in all that we create in our life.–

6 Steps to Stop Delaying Happiness and Step Into Your Power

1. Find Ways to Satisfy Your Own Needs 

Tony Robbins teaches on the 6 innate human needs. We all have them no matter how superhuman we think we are:

• Love/Connection
• Certainty/Comfort
• Uncertainty/Variety
• Significance
• Growth
• Contribution

Oftentimes when these needs aren’t met we look for sources outside of ourselves to satisfy them when we really have had the power to satisfy these needs for ourselves all along.

In the search outside of ourselves, who and what we attract into our life is being called in from a place of neediness or emptiness to supplement something that’s missing instead of a place of complimenting our wholeness and abundance.

In relationship: this oozes projection, neediness, fault finding, and looking to your partner to satisfy something instead of allowing them to show up fully as themselves.

In life: this equates to fleeting circumstantial happiness instead of true peace and trust that everything is going to work out just fine.

Satisfying your own needs will allow you to attract things that compliment your already whole life, instead of you leaching on to these ideals hoping to be filled up by getting them.

It’s your responsibility to fill yourself up instead of relying on someone or something else to do it.

Questions to support you in this: What pay off / need is your self sabotage satisfying? What pay off or need are you looking to satisfy by reaching goal or changing an external circumstance? How can you give yourself more of that and satisfy that need today?

      2. Acknowledge How Far You’ve Come Instead of How Far You Have to Go

What you focus on expands. If you look at what’s not working, what’s going wrong, and how far you have to go it will be hard to find motivation to keep going and any action you take will come from that place of lack or “making up for” where you’re not. In this case, you’ll keep attracting circumstances and people into your life that match the same energy as lack, not having enough, needing more, feeling stuck etc

If you keep seeing the SAME thing show up time and time again there is a reason. You’ll literally keep recreating the same experience over and over until the lesson is learned and you shift your perspective / way of being.

Pema Chodron says, “Nothing goes away until it’s taught us what we need to know” and I’m with her all the way!

Right now, just by adjusting your perspective, your life could stay the exact same, and your entire experience of it could be different. That’s the power of focus. What’s cool is as you alter your focus, you’ll begin to attract and manifest things, people, opportunities and so on that match that vibration of abundance, gratitude, and forward motion (if that’s where you are focussing your energy and efforts).

There’s a ton of science to support this, but I’ll get to that in another post. For now, lets look for some proof in your current reality…

Ever notice that when things are going bad they feel like they keep going bad? Check your focus!

Ever notice how when things are going great the goodness keeps on coming? That’s because you’re focussing and putting your efforts on what’s working and keeping the momentum instead of how far you have to go!

Everyday Practice: At the end of every day write down 5 things you can acknowledge yourself for and 5 things that are working in your life! This will gradually shift your focus and retrain your brain to see what’s working over time.

      3. Stop Placing Blame and Start Taking Personal Responsibility 

As mentioned before you are the source of it all. How does blame and complaining truly serve you other than placing more focus on the negative? It doesn’t.

Here are some questions to support you in shifting from a victim mentality to a victor who has the power to create and be ANYTHING you choose:

How can you use your hardships as a chance to learn and grow?

How can you choose to see truth and/or the loving perspective over the fear?

How can you take a seemingly out of control circumstances and do what’s in your power to make the best of them? 

How can you take small incremental action steps to shift YOUR circumstances? 

      4. Change Your Physiology and Act As If

Sounds simple but shifting and moving your body can completely change your hormones, neurotransmitters, and everything that’s responsible for your mood. Amy Cuddy breaks this down scientifically with a cool action step in this awesome TedX talk.

On top of this, as you EMBODY the change you want to create, you will begin to manifest it into your reality.

To support you in this…

How would a person who is “there” (insert desired outcome you want in your life) walk, talk, act, and move?

How would they interact with others? 

How would they talk to and treat themselves?

How can you embody this today?

       5. Forgive Yourself and Move On

You’ve done the best with what you’ve known up until this point and if you feel like you haven’t, how is it serving you to focus on that? When you think about it to you get motivated or does it drag you down?

Focus on what is working now and what you CAN do instead of what you haven’t done in the past.

Love yourself up, dust yourself off, acknowledge yourself for all you’ve accomplished and how far you’ve come, and… keep it moving.

     6. Embrace The Journey and Trust the Process

One small consistent shift at a time will add up to MASSIVE results.

Enjoy the journey because the “theres” and accomplishments are fleeting. Real life happens in the messy in between so you might as well learn to savor every moment even when it doesn’t feel good.

Everything that is meant for you comes as it should and sometimes that looks like painful lessons but what you learn in those moments, and what you persist through in the moments where the internal noise is the loudest and tells you to stop, will be the most significant accomplishments of your life.

The human spirit is resilient AF. You totally got this.

If you need any support in this area, we are here for you!

Click the image below where I’ve got a special gift for you! We call them, “Craving Cards”, and they’re one of our most popular tools!

If you ever feel night time cravings, sugar cravings, the urge to just say “screw it I’m going to start my diet over tomorrow”, or like you need a little body confidence pick me up… 

Just grab a card, go through the prompts, and shift it instantly!

Click the image above and let me know where to send them!

You’ll also get mini demo video training sessions for each card where I share how to use the cards and some of my best tips for food freedom forever!

With our Craving Cards and Demo Series… 

You’ll learn how to stop cravings in their tracks, feel confident, and get back your power, fast! 

Love,
Brittany

PS: Want the exact freedom and ease with our foods that myself and thousands of our clients get to experience?

In our Beating Binge Eating Blueprint (BBEB), I show you how to make this happen in just 8 weeks!

Many of our students have seen a DRASTIC difference in as little as a few days!

It’s our signature program, and up until recently, it was $3000 or more to join.

For now, you can get it as a part of our Food Freedom Collection for practically free by clicking the image below!

There is no catch…every resource I’ve created for food freedom and body confidence will land straight in your if you just click that image below and let me know where to send it!

Health & Love,

Brittany Brown

 

 

 

 

Confession: I teared up 5+ times in this interview! If you’re struggling with your body and food in ANY way and have lost hope, feel like a lost cause, or like you’ll be stuck forever…then this was made for you.

Jill’s story is a MUST LISTEN! It’s the one of the most vulnerable and raw personal stories that’s been shared, and I’m so grateful she shared it with us. Jill’s story is so remarkable because not only did she go from crying nearly every day stuck in the viscous cycle of binge eating to having complete food freedom, but she radically transformed SO MANY areas of her life and relationships…including most importantly, returning back to who she was on the inside.

She gives numerous actionable take aways and insight in this interview for you to do the same! Jill has truly stepped into her power as a wife, mother, and woman who stands for her own happiness and bliss…she’s an inspiration and I’m honored to have been a part of her journey!

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One of My Favorite Excerpts By Jill:

“This program it helps with body image but it’s so much more. It’s connecting you to who you are, to your soul, to your heart, to your spirit…and I didn’t get that before. I have some of that now and I’m excited for my future because if you you don’t have that connection with who you are, with your heart, and soul and mind then you only have part of the picture. I only had part of the picture before, and now I have all of the picture. Yes I have food freedom but I also have emotional freedom that I didn’t have before with my body. I know I’m beautiful inside and out now. I wear clothes that I want to wear that make me feel good and I didn’t do that before. I have confidence now…in my smile, in my eyes…I can look at people…I can look at myself, and I couldn’t do that before.”

KEEP SHINING JILL!!!!!

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In this interview you’ll learn:

-How Jill went from crying daily, feeling hopeless, and having trouble playing with her children to happy, fulfilled, present, and falling in love with herself, her family, and her life (so you can too)-

-Her big “aha” that allowed her to see past the external and reconnect with her heart, mind, and soul-

-Her biggest struggle in letting go of control and how she was able to trust the process that lead her to food freedom AND her jeans fitting better than they have in a long time-

-Her tips and mindset shifts that helped her release binge eating, self criticism, and chronic dieting once and for all –

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Listen To Jill’s Story By Playing The Video Below

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To learn more about the Beating Binge Eating Blueprint or to schedule a Complimentary Strategy Call Visit:

https://beatingbingeeating.com/strategy-call

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We all know what to do, right…but why don’t we do it? Before we get into practical ways to practice self love, lets dismantle anything that might be standing in the way of you actually applying these practices.

We’ll divide this into 2 sections; limiting beliefs standing in the way of you taking time for yourself and stepping into your power, and the actual practicality of making time for yourself and implementing new practices into your life with grace and ease.

Limiting Beliefs That Stop Self Love

1. Low Self Efficacy – Lack of belief in yourself to do the actions to get desired result.Internally this sounds like: I won’t follow through so why even start? What’s the point? I’m always going to be here? Nothing is going to change?This shows up like: Stopping before you even start or starting for a few days then going back to old behavior 
2. Low Self Worth – Believing that you are unworthy of love because of ___ or until you reach ____ (insert weight, goal, level of success, relationship status etc)Internally this can sound like: When I am thinner I will nourish my body but for now I will diet until I get there.When I make the money I’ll do that for myself but I need to isolate and hustle until I get there.When I feel better about myself I’ll go on the date.

   This shows up like: Withholding love and respect because you’re not meeting your criteria for feeling worthy or not meeting the unrealistic expectations you place on yourself.

3. Secondary Gain – Are there any payoffs that you’re getting from not practicing self love? What’s the benefit? Look deep, it’s often unconscious.Example: Being scared you’ll get hurt by putting yourself out there so you engage in activity that is self sabotaging that leads to isolation like binge eating.
   
4. Fear of Loss / Fear of Your Own Brilliance – Fear that if you take care of yourself, love yourself, grow etc that you may offend others that you care about or even worse…leave them behind. Fear that in shining your light you could get unwanted attention.

Tips For Implementing Self Love Practices

1. Break your self-care habits into smaller chunks. Sometimes taking hours each day to yourself can seem like a bit much when you have a lot going on. Pick ONE thing you’re going to implement and stick to that. Once you have momentum and things are getting easier, add another.
2. Schedule it in. You wouldn’t miss a meeting with your boss would you? Self-care and self-love are even more important so prioritize them as such.

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On today’s FACEBOOK LIVE – we’ll be talking all about ways to work through these beliefs, and ways to implement the below. Join the Food Freedom Fighter’s Tribe for free by clicking here so you don’t miss it. 

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50 Ways to Practice Self Love Today

1. Say no to commitments that don’t serve you and YES to anything that’s a “HELL YES!”
2. Say no to spending time or energy with people that don’t lift you up.
3. Say yes to activities, people, and events that light to your life – make time for them!
4. Feel – yes, feelings are ok. Good, sad, and everything in between. Sit with them, acknowledge them, find the gift, send them love and compassion, release them. If you stuff them away with food or some outside source of happiness they’ll quickly resurface.
5. Listen to your body! Instead of counting calories and stressing about every last bite, check in and see what your body wants and needs. I love this question: How can I nourish myself and my body?
6. Fuel yourself with high-quality, nutrient dense, and diverse foods. Eating the same thing every day can be convenient, but remember that more diversity means a wider range of vitamins, minerals, and nutrients.
7. Practice eating slowly and mindfully. This activates digestion, allows you to absorb more nutrients, and you’ll not need as much food to fill you up if you’re actually paying attention to what you’re eating.
8. Put down your fork between bites and take a breathe.
9. Find a loving mantra and repeat it daily. Example “I love and accept myself just as I am.
10. Work on being present in the moment. Set affirmation reminders on your phone to help you with this.
11. Check your intuition instead of stressing yourself out with overanalyzing. Oftentimes when we let go of a little bit of control the answer or direction we need to take naturally comes to us…you always know.
12. Make time for movement that feels really good! Not every workout has to be hard and intense; do what feels right. Your body will thank you for it!
13. Stop hitting snooze and create an empowering morning ritual. How you start each day is how you live your life.
14. Sleep! 7 hours minimum, the goal is 9.
15. Give yourself a day off to relax if you’re feeling drained.
16. Do something kind for someone who will never be able to repay you.
17. Smile and say hello to everyone you see.
18. Release procrastination and do one small thing that moves you towards a goal.
19. “Act As If” …how would you act if you were the highest version of you living out all your goals and dreams? Start embodying that today.
20. Find activities or hobbies you lose yourself in and make time for them. This is called flow and it’s magical!
21. Reward your body for all the hard work it does for you daily. A massage or relaxing bath is a great place to start.
22. Return to nature for at least a few minutes a day. A park, an outside walk, playing with your pup outside…it all nourishes you.
23. Listen to music that energizes you and brightens your day.
24. Write a gratitude list. As you focus on what you’re grateful of and what works for you you’ll begin to attract more of it into your life.
25. Get dressed and make yourself presentable each day. It’s a confidence booster and your entire day will change.
26. We need oxygen, and oftentimes don’t get enough. Stop and take a few deep breathes throughout the day.
27. Laugh, it’s an instant mood booster!
28. Speaking of fun – go out and have it!
29. Read a good book. A little inspiration each day can work wonders.
30. Decorate your home or room with things that make you feel good. These don’t have to be expensive…even small little trinkets can bring you peace.
31. Where clothes that embody the true you and allow you to be self expressed.
32. Take time for prayer or meditation. Connecting to your higher self, or a higher source of energy, on a daily basis is one of the greatest things you can do for yourself and those around you.
33. Volunteer in a cause that is very important to you. Giving back is a great way to give to yourself.
34. Indulge in buying something nice for yourself; you are worthy.
35. Enjoy a candle lit dinner you made for yourself.
36. Treat yourself to flowers. I buy fresh flowers each week and every time I see them, I smile.
37. Get a manicure, pedicure or facial…or some type of self care. You’re worth it!
38. Find some DIY self care products that sound appealing and make your own from natural and nourishing ingredients. It’s fun and also feels like you’re doing something good for yourself and the environment.
39. Have a spa night with girlfriends at your home. Connection and self care…you can’t go wrong!
40. Take a few minutes to stretch when you wake up while breathing deeply.
41. Disconnect from electronics for an hour or more. Phone included.
42. Write a love or acknowledgement letter to yourself.
43. Journal…This is way to work through the noise and reconnect to your truth.
44. Try something artistic…Get a coloring book, paint, draw. If you need some creative inspiration, the book Big Magic is one of my favorites!
45. Dance! Any time I’m down I get up and dance. If you can do it in a class with other women regularly it’s even better! This lets you connect with others and tap into your femininity.
46. Spend 10 minutes signing your heart out.
47. Mirror work: Stand in the mirror and look into your own eyes for 5 minutes. Stay engaged. Really look past what you see and focus on the connection with yourself. Keep doing this until it gets easier, it will.
48. Bonus to the above, add gratitude and affirmations. 5 things you love about your body and 5 things you are grateful for.
49. Invest in a program or coach that will help you release any struggle and achieve what you want. You’re worth it!
50. Buy yourself something meaningful for Valentine’s Day even if you have a significant other. You deserve your own love, no matter where you’re at on your journey!

If you need any support in this area, we are here for you!

Click the image below where I’ve got a special gift for you! We call them, “Craving Cards”, and they’re one of our most popular tools!

If you ever feel night time cravings, sugar cravings, the urge to just say “screw it I’m going to start my diet over tomorrow”, or like you need a little body confidence pick me up… 

Just grab a card, go through the prompts, and shift it instantly!

Click the image above and let me know where to send them!

You’ll also get mini demo video training sessions for each card where I share how to use the cards and some of my best tips for food freedom forever!

With our Craving Cards and Demo Series… 

You’ll learn how to stop cravings in their tracks, feel confident, and get back your power, fast! 

Love,
Brittany

PS: Want the exact freedom and ease with our foods that myself and thousands of our clients get to experience?

In our Beating Binge Eating Blueprint (BBEB), I show you how to make this happen in just 8 weeks!

Many of our students have seen a DRASTIC difference in as little as a few days!

It’s our signature program, and up until recently, it was $3000 or more to join.

For now, you can get it as a part of our Food Freedom Collection for practically free by clicking the image below!

There is no catch…every resource I’ve created for food freedom and body confidence will land straight in your if you just click that image below and let me know where to send it!

Ah I am SO excited for you to have this interview with our Food Freedom Fighter™ of the week: Elizabeth! She graduated the Beating Binge Eating Blueprint program 3 months ago, and since starting her ENTIRE life has shifted in more areas than just having ease with her body and food.

Elizabeth spills it all in this interview, and even admits to not fully believing me in the beginning of the program as she had tried so many things to find freedom but none of them would stick or last. She thought she was a lost cause, but we quickly showed her otherwise!

Even in the face of fear, Elizabeth committed and went all in. In this interview she shares what allowed her to do so as well as helpful tips for you to break free from binge and emotional eating and live a life fueled by freedom, grace, and ease!

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In this interview you’ll learn:

-The MAIN reason Elizabeth is experiencing Food Freedom Forever (this shift will help you in any area you’re trying to grow or change in)-
-How freedom and ease with your body and food has opened up magic in her life that she never was able to tap into before(with actionable tips for you to tap into your magic)
– Her REAL struggles and the practices she used to work through them and keep going(so you can too)-
-A message poured straight out of her heart to your ears(you deserve to hear this)

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To learn more about the Beating Binge Eating Blueprint or to schedule a Complimentary Strategy Call Visit:

https://beatingbingeeating.com/strategy-call

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Over and over again it is proven to me that within self love lies the key to food and body freedom and the fuel to live a happy, fulfilled, and meaningful life. 

I’ve also come to learn that the relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have, especially if you want successful, meaningful, and connected relationships with others.

Before we get into what self love is, why it matters, and why the only growth and change that lasts is growth that comes from a place of deep self love and worth…I want to let you know what to expect in the coming weeks!

Through my work and experience of leading myself and 100’s of women out of the deep pits of binge and emotional eating I’ve seen it all…

I’ve seen years and years of attempted change fueled by fear, criticism, and self rejection take women (myself included) back to the SAME defeating cycles of self abuse and sabotage over and over again…

…no matter what we tried, or how hard we worked at it.

I’ve also seen MIRACLES produced in women’s lives when they’ve chose love, and chose it over and over daily until it became a part of who they are…

I’ve seen marriages fixed, baby’s born, dreams fulfilled, massive life shifts,weight released, transformations therapists and “experts” would say are impossible take place, eating disorders left behind, body images mended, and missions born when women (myself included) have pursued their growth from a deep place of love, respect for themselves, and connection.

This stuff is powerful, that’s why we are dedicating an entire month to it.

Here’s what to expect this month:

1. An empowering and actionable blog post every Tuesday
2. Facebook Live and going deep into the topic + a Q&A every Thursday at 12:00 pm EST in the Food Freedom Fighters Group, join us here: bit.ly/foodfreedomfighters  

Here’s What We’ll Be Covering Each Week:

Today/Week 1: Self Love: What It Is and Isn’t & Why Growth MUST Come From a Place of Self Love to Last

Next Week/Week 2: Working Through Limiting Beliefs the Stop Self Love + Actionable Practices for Self Love and Care

Valentines Day/Week 3: Knowing Your Worth + Sharing Your Love with Others and The World

February 21st/Week 4: Allowing Love In: Releasing Comparison and Isolation to Start Living

February 28th/Week 5: Love and Power In Numbers: The Magic of Sisterhood and Support

So, what does self love even mean and why does it matter?

When I’m talking self love, I’m talking the unconditional love, compassion and respect for every part of yourself, your dark and your light, that is so deep, so beautiful and so all-encompassing that it nourishes every cell of your being.

Since you’re completely nourished, and so filled up with love, you only choose situations, relationships, opportunities, and actions towards yourself and others that are a reflection of this unconditional love, compassion, and respect.

Since you’re so connected to yourself and the force that created you, any situation, goal, giving, pursuit, or relationship is complimentary or an addition to your life..not something that’s being sought after to fill a void, seek approval, or make you feel worthy.

What self love is not…

Self love is not selfish. Self love and showing up for yourself daily is one of the least selfish things you can do. How can you expect to show up in the world and give love to others if you’re not taking care of yourself first? Self love means you’ll be so filled that you can deliver in every other aspect of your life, as well as settle for nothing less than the very best for yourself and those you love.

Below you’ll see a few other things that self love is not (we cover these in depth in week 6 of our Beating Binge Eating Blueprint)…

1) Trying to please others and giving so much of yourself away that your tank is empty and you have nothing left to give yourself. This one usually results in exhaustion, resentment towards others, and feeling unlovable or broken unless you’re pleasing someone else.

2) A strong focus on self-confidence and achievement, so much so that your hustle for achievement has you fail to tend to yourself with compassion and self-care. This one usually results in burning out and feeling like a failure.

3) Self-awareness and observation but no or very little self-trust or belief in yourself to make your dreams a reality or to overcome what you’re going through. This usually results in withholding self-expression, not putting your gifts to use, not taking risks that will benefit you, feeling stuck, wanting more, and feeling empty or like something is always missing.

4) Self-pleasure and fun without honor, self-respect and knowing your worth. Ever heard of looking for love in all the wrong places? This one is that. Hell yes to fun and pleasure, but honoring yourself through the process is key! If not, you’re left with unhealthy relationships and emotional gaps that you’re trying to fill with anything but what will actually fill you up (hint hint: self love)

5) Self-esteem and strength, but not standing for yourself and what your worth in relationship or life situations. This one typically looks like success on the outside but self-destructive on the inside, or having it all together in career but settling for crumbs in relationships (both romantic and friendships).

6) Waiting to love yourself until you are _____. This looks like, I love myself but I know I will love myself more and accept myself when I’m the perfect weight, or when I have the perfect job, or when I achieve this. Perfection never comes. This one results in constant waiting to live, constant disappointment, and constant never feeling good enough.

Do you recognize yourself in any of the above? My paradigm has changed form many times. I used to fall into category one, taking care of everyone else and so worried about people pleasing that I neglected myself and my needs, as well as my self-expression. Then I got so burned that I closed off and switched to the total opposite, number two. No one could mess with me but I was hustling so hard that my self-care suffered. Category six has popped its ugly little head up at times too…I’m sure you’ve heard that voice too! You know the, I’ll be happy when… or I’ll do this for myself when…

All of the above are equally detrimental to your overall happiness. They rob you of joy, they keep you stuck, and the keep you missing out on so much that this beautiful life has to offer.

What does this have to do with your relationship with your body and food?

Everything.

Self-sabotage is born from the list above. You know at your core that you are worth more than anything in those six categories above, so if you’re playing small and stuck in any of them then it’s very likely that you’ll reach out to something outside of you for the love you’re craving…

…or  to help stuff down your true desires and what you really know you deserve…

…or to numb it all together.

The pain from self-neglect can be unbearable at times so why not reach for something like food that will stop the pain if even for just a few moments, right?

Sound familiar?

I get it, I’ve been there! If you’re reading this, your something you reach for is probably food. No amount of food in the world will fill up a self-love deficit. Nothing will actually.

No shopping, no drugs, no sex, no alcohol, no career, no car, no house, no lover, no anything will ever fill a self-love deficit.  You will be left searching, when all along the answers to your happiness have been inside of you the entire time.

Don’t beat yourself up. Society sets us up to operate from the list of the six above. Most of us live our lives as if we don’t deserve any of our own time or energy. We work jobs we hate and stress ourselves out as we are serving someone else’s dream. We rarely say “no” to things that we don’t have time for, things that bring us anxiety, or even worse…things that don’t line up with who we are authentically just to please others.

We do this for a while, and it all seems to be ok.  Then there we are… sitting with diagnosed depression, panic attacks, full blown anxiety, looking for pleasure in things outside of ourselves to distract us or numb ourselves, eating disorders, “ADD”, burn out, overwhelm, drinking 4 cups of coffee just to get through the day, sadness, feeling empty inside, you name it…

and then we try to change, but we do it from a place of self rejection, judgement, and criticism, and it’s not sustainable. 

Which can reaffirm your story of not being worth it, capable, and enough…

And your efforts to change come from a place of lack, a place of trying to get “there” to feel worthy…

and you never feel it…

so you spiral…

and the cycle repeats, and repeats, and repeats.

You’ll live your life in this defeating cycle…

You’ll search for answers in books, courses, google, significant others, and never quite find the missing piece to the puzzle…

YOU.

That worth has to come from within,

that love has to come from you,

that respect has to be given by you…

Before you can really appreciate it fully from anyone else.

You have to take you wherever you go, so you might as well make peace with yourself, so when you get to where you want to be you can love and appreciate it from a place of wholeness…

and also so you can enjoy those moments in-between getting “there” because that when life truly happens.

The cool thing is, you don’t have to have this thing totally down to find freedom.

You can find freedom through your journey to self love, and this month we will show you how!

Join us in the Food Freedom Fighter Tribe for a Facebook LIVE today at 12:00 pm EST (it’s a private group), request us here: bit.ly/foodfreedomfighters

If you need any support in this area, we are here for you!

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Love,
Brittany

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