Ever noticed that it’s a lot easier to be loving, compassionate, and forgiving with others than it is with ourselves?

Sometimes we all fall to that little voice inside of us. It’s all too easy to listen to that inner dialogue that is often as nasty as a social media troll.

It’s that voice that constantly tells you that you’re not good enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, smart enough–you name it.

And the funny thing is that those internal barbs we give ourselves are often skew our body image more than anything else.

So why does this happen? Why are we so quick to put ourselves down, especially when it comes to what we see in the mirror?

Let’s think about the world around us. There are messages everywhere that encourage us all to doubt our worthiness, and with the idea that you have to be “better” if you want love, connection, or attention.

Before you know it, you start believing that you’re not OK the way you are. And that you’d better get “better” or you’ll be denied your basic human needs.

Makes you wonder if that inner critic is doing you a favor by prodding you along to “improve…”

But the truth is that you were born worthy. You don’t need to earn the right to love, connection, and attention.

Once you take that to heart, you’ll find that naysaying voice pretty useless.

But how do you turn that constant mind-jabber off? How do you step into your confidence, remember your worth, and start feeling free within your own body regardless of what that voice has to say?

You could try and force the nasty self-talk to stop. You could try to force yourself into a place of self-love before you’re ready to believe it.

But if you’re anything like me, you know from experience that this pathway doesn’t get you where you want to go.

You see, change rooted in fear isn’t sustainable. If you want lasting change, it’s got to come from a place of genuine love.

I’m not talking about faking it ‘til you make it with well-meaning but empty affirmations (although affirmations do have their time and place). I mean practicing loving thoughts AND actions, and making a conscious choice to practice them consistently.

Because something magical happens when you make loving thoughts and actions as a practice…

Eventually, you start seeing everything from a perspective of love. You start rewiring your brain to see the beauty in everything, yourself included.

Over time, it changes your actions, your behavior, and the way that you show up in the world for the better.

No pushing, or forcing required!

But how do you start? How do you drop the fight with that inner critic and make peace with her once for all?

I use a three-letter strategy to set my clients up for loving thoughts that last. It’s a little acronym that I call “ORE.”

You can choose how you want to feel. Do you want to embody fear, doubt, and shame…OR would you rather choose love, compassion, and grace?

The “ORE” method shows you how to set yourself up for the thoughts and actions that love you back. Let’s get into the “how” of it right now at the video below!

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Step #1: Observe. When naysaying thoughts show up, you can have two choices: either believe them or observe them. I suggest you observe them, and then separate yourself from them.

Observe your thoughts as though they were a movie. Notice what you’re thinking, but don’t hold onto those thoughts. That’s what I mean by “separating yourself.”

You see, you HAVE thoughts. But you are NOT your thoughts. When you distinguish your true self from the jibber-jabber of your mind, those thoughts lose their power over you. And sooner or later, the inner critic’s voice simply drifts away.

Step #2: Recognize and reassure. The next step is to recognize that thoughts are nothing but habits and patterns. Most of them are on repeating loops, and they’re patterned and automatic.

In fact, about 95% of the thoughts you thought today are the same ones you thought yesterday. That’s true for everyone on the planet.

The cool part is that you can choose the thoughts that you focus on. You have the power to choose what thoughts you want to keep and which ones you’d rather let go.

But if you let your thoughts run on autopilot, they are running the show.  So for best results, choose your thoughts wisely.

The first part of step two is to recognize that your thoughts are just thoughts–and they don’t mean anything about the person you really are.

As you observe your thoughts, then, recognize that they may be flowing through your mind, but they are not a reflection of your true self.

The second part of step two is reassurance. No matter what your thoughts might try to convince you of, reassure yourself that you are capable. You are worthy. And you are loved.

Send that loving reassurance to the fearful, ego-based part of you that triggers the doubt-based patterns. Tell that fear-based place that there is nothing to fear…and that you’ve got this.

Step 3: Embody your truth. Now, here’s the thing. It’s easy to say things like “I feel worthy of love no matter what the scale says today.” But are you believing your own words?

It’s OK if you’re not buying what you’re telling yourself just yet! In my experience, I’ve found that it takes more than just repeating happy words to make real change.

The difference comes when you add a little fire to your positive self-talk in the form of loving actions. Real-time steps you can take to embody the reassurance from step two.

Let me give you an example…

Many of the women I work with come to the program with the desire to release weight. And nearly all of them tell me that they’ve been putting off buying new clothes until they’ve gotten down to the size they want to be.

Here’s where we take a completely different approach…

We encourage them to take what sounds like the last step FIRST. That is, go out and buy something new right NOW. Something that would inspire and uplift them. And don’t wait until you’ve dropped 20 pounds or are a “perfect” size whatever.

Why? Because when you take a stand like this, you’re acting as if you’re already “there”. You’re putting yourself in the place of a woman who already has what you want right now.

It’s choosing something that makes you feel inspired and empowered right now, no matter what size you are.

It’s reassuring that fearful part of you that you are already deserving of love, no matter how you think you look right now.

Most of all, it sends that self-love signal to the Universe. You’re saying that you are already worthy of support, attention, and love. No matter what that sharp-talking inner critic might say.

These steps might be challenging in the beginning. But the more you practice them, the easier they’ll get.

The more often that you choose loving thoughts and actions over critical barbs and negative self-talk, the more your outer world will shift to match your inner being.

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Love,
Brittany

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