The diet world has its rules. Ugh, so many rules!!
And the expert’s who push them promise: If you don’t break them or find the willpower to stick to the plan, you’ll get where you want to be
Unfortunately, these strict demands are frequently an issue for strong, powerful, driven women like us 😉
The bright side of our natural drive for perfection and high performance: we get a lot of shit done
The not so bright side: a ton of pressure and self criticism andddd when it comes to diets and very unhappy brain that makes us think about food and eat more after intense dieting
Diets (or diet like behavior and thinking) lead to a huge struggle with food–binge eating, weight gain, you name it.
That struggle with food can last for years. Gaahhhh it angers me to even think about it!
I went through the diet-binge-repeat struggle myself for over a decade, and I’m super grateful to be able to face this crazy time WITHOUT food making it any harder!
Now, you’ve got the stress of quarantines, lockdowns, and “IDK what will happen next” fears…it’s totally normal to be struggling now more than ever, and also normal to be REALLY hard on yourself in the process!
But I’m bringing you some good news today!
Your food struggle doesn’t have to make tough times worse. In fact, even in this chaotic, turmoil-filled time, you can still find peace.
You can drop those unwanted eating habits from your life, and create a supportive relationship with food. (Really!)
But how, especially when you’re stuck in a house full of quarantine snacks you wouldn’t normally let yourself have?
Watch the video below and I’ll share with you a super-simple shift to help you get your center back–and fast. It’s counterintuitive, but it works wonders when the struggle gets a little too real!
Like I mentioned earlier, what I’m about to share might sound counterintuitive. It might even sound too simple to work. But it’s crazy powerful. Ready?
Give yourself a break.
Not fancy. Not rocket science. Just give yourself permission to take it easy, for once. Be gentle with yourself. Less pressure. More patience and forgiveness.
Now, this doesn’t mean lowering your standards. It doesn’t mean to stop trying your best to show up for yourself and your loved ones. What it DOES mean is to stop beating yourself up. Let go of the need to be perfect all the time, and give yourself a little grace.
Because I have to be honest with you. This whole situation has been insanely hard for everyone.
There’s constant bad news. We can’t be sure if grocery stores will have food. We don’t really know what’s happening, or when it will end. We’re stuck at home for who knows how much longer.
All our basic core needs–our safety, security, health, finances, food–are in question. It’s no wonder that we’re full of anxiety these days! And if you’ve had a history of numbing out the stress with food, quarantine freakouts can take unsupportive eating habits to epic levels.
So how do you stop the urge for a candy bar (or two or ten) when the stress is off the chain? Before you head to the cabinet to make it all go away, try this…
1-Stop, slow down, and take a deep breath. Be gentle and easy on yourself. Give yourself a break. Stop demanding perfection of yourself.
2-Ask yourself what you need right now to feel your best. Check in with your needs, and honor what your inner self asks for.
I know, you have a lot of commitments. Work at home, kids at home, school from home–any or all these might apply to you. But there’s also one other major priority that you shouldn’t overlook–YOU.
Now, let’s make these check-in questions even more specific when relating to food. Once you’ve found your center, and you’ve found that what you need is nutritional support, consider this question…
What do you need to eat to feel your best?
Not what the diet book told you to eat. Not what the health guru teaching the online workouts said. Not what the hubs or wifey is demanding. But what YOU need to feel energized, happy, and grounded.
Now, you might be wondering why these basic questions are so powerful. Why is it such a big deal to take a few moments and focus on your own needs?
Here’s the thing. As a woman, I’m guessing that you put other people’s needs ahead of your own most of the time. Probably a lot more often than you might think, too.
The truth is that we as women tend to reference others far more than we reference ourselves. Most of the time without even realizing we’re doing it! Let me give you an example.
Think about the last (pre-quarantine) time you were out to eat with your girlfriends. The waitperson might’ve come by to ask if anyone wanted bread, another drink, or to see a dessert menu. What did you say?
Chances are you probably didn’t give an enthusiastic YES or NO based on what you were feeling. If you’re like most women, you looked around the table and asked everyone else what they wanted first.
As women, we want everyone to be happy. We want to take care of the group and ensure that everyone is having a good time, and their needs are being met. This is a perfectly fine thing, of course.
But the problem comes in when you do this at the expense of your own needs.
Of course, finding “me time” can be tough when you’re dealing with other people’s needs 24/7 while stuck at home. Kids, partners, family, remote bosses–you get the idea. Sure, check in with everyone around you to see if they’re OK. But remember to do yourself the same favor!
The big takeaway? Be gentle on yourself. Give yourself a break. Check in with yourself on the regular. Be sure that you’re getting what you need to be as happy as you can be, both physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Now, here’s my assignment for you: take your phone, and set up a reminder. Set it to go off every hour, and create a short and sweet message for yourself. Something like “what do I need right now?” or whatever words get your attention and resonate with you.
Then the notification pops up, stop what you’re doing. Get yourself in a comfortable place. Then put one hand on your heart, the other on your belly. Take a deep breath in and out. Then ask yourself what you need right NOW to feel as amazing as possible.
Try this right now, if you can. What comes up for you, and what do YOU need right now to feel the best that you can?
Do you need a dance party? Do you need to call a friend, pummel a pillow, or step out to your car and create your personal scream chamber? How about cooking yourself a meal, watching a show on Netflix, or simply BEing for a few moments?
Chances are good that whatever you’re told will serve you far better than an disconnected, autopilot trip to the cabinet.
So give yourself a break. Go easy on yourself, and take a moment to connect. Then ask yourself what you need, and honor that request. All of this not only helps you drop unsupportive eating habits, but also makes it easier to show up as your best self for EVERYONE. (Yourself included!)
Now, if you’re struggling with food right now, I get it. Binge triggers, food hangovers, and emotional eating are bad enough. Add in the insanity of our current situation, and those things can turn into an all-out nightmare…
That’s why I created this special training for YOU!
It’s called “3 Ways TO Stop Overeating While Stuck At Home.” Get this training at the link below, and learn how to stop overindulging on quarantine snacks while you’re waiting out the lockdown.
This training will support you during this difficult time, but it’ll ALSO help you shift your relationship with food going forward.
You’ll learn the skills you need to create an amazing connection with your body and your food. They’re the skills that you can take with you even after the lockdown ends!
Get that training at the link below:
Once you’ve got the food relationship on the mend, the rest of your life will get SO much easier. So join me for this training, and make food fears one less thing to worry about not only now, but from here on out!
So stay safe, be well, and leave me a comment below!
Tell me, is it easy for you to give yourself a break, or do you tend to be the perfectionist? Let me know how this tip resonated with you, and how you plan to implement it in your life.
Looking forward to hearing from you!