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3 Reasons Why Change Is Hard, And How To Blast Through Resistance To Create The Life You Desire

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Getting motivated at the beginning of a journey is easy. The hard part is staying with it when the middle gets messy, and typically…shit hits the fan right before the big breakthrough.

That goes for all kinds of change, including your body-food relationship.

The truth is that at some level, we all technically know at least a few steps of what it might take to change our lives.

The question is…if we know some of the how, why don’t we just DO it?

After years of helping women make lasting changes in their body-food relationships (and doing the same for myself), here’s what I’ve learned…

Even if a change is for the better, it’s still a change. It’s stepping into the unknown instead of sticking with what you know.

When you challenge the status quo–even if it’s for your benefit–the internal pushback is inevitable. Sometimes it’s enough to make you stop, turn back, and go back to what you know.

Even if it’s something as painful as binge eating.

Does this mean that resistance and roadblocks will keep you stuck forever? Not if you know what to do when fear and doubt try to stop you!

Lasting change isn’t easy, but it doesn’t have to be so hard. Find out how to get past resistance, move beyond your comfort zone, and step into the ultimate version of you in the video below!

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So why does lasting change feel so difficult, even though it’s what we say we want? There’s a lot of reasons for self-sabotage, but I’ve narrowed down the top three roadblocks.

I break them all down here, and show you how to stop them from stopping you!

Roadblock #1: Getting lost in overwhelm. Sometimes you feel ready for change. You’re determined to become the “new you,” and you’re convinced you can do it overnight.

That’s when things usually go a little haywire…

You get the idea that change is all-or-nothing, so you better get it all in TODAY, or it won’t count.

When it comes to changing your body-food relationship, gurus and celebrity coaches sell this idea big-time.

They tell you that you need to overhaul your life for real change to happen, and do it immediately if not sooner.

Then they sell programs that make you implement a million changes quickly. Why? So you can get the fastest results possible.

Sure, you might keep up for a while. But eventually, it feels like you’re climbing Mount Everest every day.

Then reality hits, and overwhelm is right behind it. Eventually you quit, and you’re back where you started. No progress, no change.

Programs like these demand so much change in so little time. They might give you fast results, but eventually, too much too soon catches up with you. So not only are you back where you started, but you’re also disappointed by another failure.

But here’s the truth…

Lasting change happens one step at a time. We’re talking about baby steps, not leaps and bounds.

Here’s an example of what that might look like…

Maybe you want to support your body with nourishing food. But instead of forcing yourself to go from processed foods to a diet of broccoli and sprouts overnight, do this…

Grab a pen and paper. Write down every step and part of implementing more nourishing food into your life.

Your list might include things like: eating more vegetables, having more nourishing breakfasts, or drinking more water. Whatever comes up, write it all down.

Then choose one step, and add it to your daily routine.

Stick with that step for a week or more, until you get some momentum. Then when it starts feeling like second nature, add another action step from your list.

Do this once a week, and watch the change unfold slowly but surely!

Imagine if every week you added in just one new step. That’s 52 new supportive habits you’d create in a year!

Even if you implement steps every other week, that’s still 26 new life-changing actions. How incredible would that be?

You don’t need to climb a mountain on the first day. Just take one step at a time, and make every step count. THAT is the way to lasting change.

Roadblock #2: Real change is going to come with some resistance. Embrace it. Let’s take a moment for an undeniable truth when it comes to change.

Lasting change is NOT easy.

It means shifting the physical, neurological, chemical and emotional patterns that you’ve had all your life. It’s pretty much a radical rewiring of your system.

No big thing, right?

But here’s the cool part. It can be done.

It just takes time, patience, and dedication! So give yourself a break. You’re human.

You don’t plant a seed and then see a flower the next day. A caterpillar doesn’t move from a cocoon to a butterfly in a moment. Change in your life works the same way!

Conventional wisdom says it takes 21 days to build a new habit. Honestly, I believe that’s about the time it takes for a new habit to even start feeling normal.

If you’re integrating major changes, it’s more like 4-5 months for things to feel truly second nature.

That may seem like a long time – But you know what? You’re worth that time investment. This is the rest of your life we are talking about here.

Change most effective when it’s step-by-step and incremental. There’s a dying off of the habits that don’t support you while leaving space to cultivate the things that move you forward.

So just know that you’re bound to run into resistance through those four months while your brain, body, and emotions upgrade. Give yourself a break, and keep going.

Roadblock #3: Don’t mistake setbacks for failures and quit. Change is about embracing the unknown. But that doesn’t mean that your brain is quick to get on board.

Your brain’s job is to keep you from danger, and as far as it’s concerned, change just might equal death.

That means that with change comes resistance. And with resistance comes setbacks.

Sometimes those setbacks feel like failures.

When that happens, it’s like a one-two punch. You believe not only that can you can’t change, but also that change is scary, so you better not risk it.

Of course, none of this is true!

Fears, doubts, and setbacks are normal when you’re on a new path. Just remember that they don’t mean STOP. In fact, resistance is often an indication that you’re doing something right!

But what do you do when setbacks try to trick you into going back to your old ways?

Acknowledge your feelings, honor your experience, but keep going anyway. Even if you take smaller steps forward for awhile, it’s the “forward” part that counts!

Growing pains will happen. Slow down and rest along the way if you need to. Rest and recovery aren’t the same as resignation and giving up, so treat yourself with kindness as you go!

In the end, change is a process. It’s also an experiment, and it could be fun, if you allow it to be! Treat it as a curiosity rather than a threat, and keep taking the steps one day at a time.

I hope this gives you some insight about lasting change, and that it inspires you keep going through all the resistance. Remember–it takes time, patience, and dedication, but you’re worth it!

If you’ve been struggling with change, especially with your body-food relationship, I’m here to help.

Click the image below where I’ve got a special gift for you! We call them, “Craving Cards”, and they’re one of our most popular tools!

If you ever feel night time cravings, sugar cravings, the urge to just say “screw it I’m going to start my diet over tomorrow”, or like you need a little body confidence pick me up… 

Just grab a card, go through the prompts, and shift it instantly!

Click the image above and let me know where to send them!

You’ll also get mini demo video training sessions for each card where I share how to use the cards and some of my best tips for food freedom forever!

With our Craving Cards and Demo Series… 

You’ll learn how to stop cravings in their tracks, feel confident, and get back your power, fast! 

Love,
Brittany

PS: Want the exact freedom and ease with our foods that myself and thousands of our clients get to experience?

In our Beating Binge Eating Blueprint (BBEB), I show you how to make this happen in just 8 weeks!

Many of our students have seen a DRASTIC difference in as little as a few days!

It’s our signature program, and up until recently, it was $3000 or more to join.

For now, you can get it as a part of our Food Freedom Collection for practically free by clicking the image below!

There is no catch…every resource I’ve created for food freedom and body confidence will land straight in your if you just click that image below and let me know where to send it!

All The Feels: How Emotions Make You Hold Onto Weight (The Weight Loss Struggle That NO Diet Can Touch)

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Back in the day, I thought that beating weight and binge eating struggles meant straight-up diet and nutrition. So I followed every diet guru and bought everything they were selling.

But sooner or later, every diet just flat-out stopped working.

I figured that it had to be my fault. I couldn’t stick to anyone’s diet. Maybe my mindset was off. Or maybe I just wasn’t motivated enough to succeed.

So I started following mindset and motivation gurus in addition to all the diet and exercise advice I could consume.

But in the end, I always went back to binging.

I was gaining and losing the same 40 pounds over and over again. I was losing the body battle even though I was doing everything “right.”

But then I discovered that there was more to weight loss than diet, exercise, and motivation.

Something was making me cling to weight, and nobody in diet and fitness land was addressing it.

That underlying cause was my emotions.

Believe it or not, trapped emotions play a significant role in weight and food struggles. They’re the one thing that nobody really talks about it. But they’re often the last thing standing between you and the results you want.

Once you understand how emotions work, something amazing happens. You find the power to end the body battle in a way that just working out and eating right never could.

Everyone talks about diet and exercise. Today I’m giving you the missing piece that can heal your relationship with your body and your food forever!

Watch this video (and read on!) and I’ll show you how emotions affect your body-food relationship–and how to work with them to escape the diet-binge-repeat cycle once and for all!

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Now, before we start, keep this in mind…

Like many things in life, emotional healing is a work in progress. That means you don’t have to heal everything before you see results.

I was a binger for over a decade. I bet you can imagine the emotional state I was in when I stopped. Binge recovery wasn’t even the only emotional stress I was experiencing at the time, either.

I was failing as an entrepreneur. I was in a toxic relationship. I was living on a friend’s couch.

Needless to say, my emotional world was far from perfect. But one step at a time, I acknowledged what was going on inside. And every step brought me closer to freedom from binging.

So if your emotional world is feeling a little insane, that’s OK. A perfectly balanced emotional life is not a prerequisite to freedom.

On the flip side, it IS imperative you take the time to acknowledge your emotions. Once you recognize the emotions that steal your joy and the subconscious beliefs that weigh you down, your healing begins.

The more emotionally aware you become, the more you recognize how unresolved feelings show up as weight gain (or lack of weight loss) in your life. From there, Food Freedom Forever is within your reach!

So how do you know that unresolved feelings might be sabotaging your weight loss and triggering binge eating?

Here are the top three signs that your emotions may be linked with your food-body battle:

Sign #1: (Unsupportive) Emotional Eating. Believe it or not, food and emotions sometimes work well together. Other times not so much.

I’m sure you’ve heard of emotional eating, but you might not know that it shows up in both supportive and unsupportive ways.

Sometimes, I choose certain meals and nutrients to make me feel more energized. Other times, a nourishing meal can make me feel grounded, calm, and supported.

That’s what we like to call supportive emotional eating.

Then there’s the other flip-side of emotional eating. The kind that makes you use food to suppress feelings that you don’t want to experience.

If you’re anything like I was, the following scenario will sound familiar.

You get triggered by something, and it leaves you with an emotion that you don’t want. You’re desperate to get rid of the daunting feeling at any cost. What do you do?

In your heightened emotional state, you decide to hit the “escape” button.

Your escape might be procrastination, social media scrolling, drinking–any number of things. But if you’re here, I bet your escape of choice is food. (I know mine was!)

That’s what we call unsupportive emotional eating. You’re numbing feelings with food instead of releasing them in a supportive way.

The most unfortunate part is that when you numb your emotions, they don’t go anywhere. They just keep popping up the harder you try to push them down.

Author Debbie Ford once said it’s like trying to shoving a beach ball underwater. Eventually, it pushes back up and explodes in your face.

It leaves you walking through the world with a ton of new, triggering emotions just waiting to pop.

On top of that, the more you numb your feelings, the more disconnected you become. Eventually, you lose the connection to your intuition, your internal guidance system, and yourself.

That’s what unsupportive emotional eating can do. It’s the most recognizable sign that feelings stand between you and sustainable weight loss.

Sign #2: Your Weight of Eating Behavior Is Keeping You “Safe.” Ever thought that you might be holding onto weight because you’re afraid to let it go?

I know that sounds crazy. But consider this–what if you subconsciously believed that extra weight is protecting you?

Believe it or not, sometimes weight acts as a protective barrier. It keeps you stuck in your comfort zone, free from the fear of change.

What kind of change would you fear so much that you cling for dear life to extra pounds?

Maybe you’ve gone through a traumatic experience, and you don’t feel safe in your body, so extra weight protects you from the world.

Maybe every time you lose weight, you go out into the dating world and end up getting hurt. So you sabotage your weight loss efforts to avoid disappointment.

Maybe you’re a creative or an aspiring entrepreneur who is afraid of sharing her work. So you hoard extra weight to keep from putting yourself out there.

In other words, you’re afraid to step out of your comfort zone. And something about losing weight makes you feel vulnerable, so you cling to the weight like a security blanket.

My fears centered around two things–putting myself out there as an entrepreneur, and looking for love in the dating world.

The more I contemplated making big moves in business or dating, the more I’d freak out, sit at home, and numb out with food.

Sure, I was trapped in a brain-based binge eating pattern. But I was also using food to self-sabotage. I was staying safe in my bubble instead of putting my work (and myself) into the world.

If you don’t feel safe your body and fear-based emotions keep control, food is a quick fix for comfort. And it makes you hold onto weight to protect you from too much vulnerability.

Sign #3: Fear of your own awesomeness. It’s one thing to fear stepping out of your comfort zone. But if you’re not careful, fear of change can morph into fear of success.

You might wonder why anyone would fear receiving their deepest desires. But as Marianne Williamson once said, our biggest fears aren’t about our inadequacy. They’re about our brilliance.

That’s right–fear of success.

Fear of who you might lose if you become your best self. Fear of how your relationships, your surroundings, and your life will change if you fully embrace your power. So to save yourself from your highest self, you hold onto that weight.

Pretty powerful stuff, right?

These are three of the main clues that emotions are keeping you in the body-food battle. And as you can see, they have nothing to do with what you eat or how you work out.

Emotional weight loss struggles are about feeling unsafe in your body. Those fearful emotions then prompt you to hold onto extra weight like a life preserver.

But the good news is that once you work through and transcend these emotional triggers, weight loss and body love will become second nature!

How do you start putting this powerful practice to work for you?

Star by taking a look at your life. Is there any area where you’re staying safe, playing small, and hiding? Now look at those areas, and notice if those emotional situations ever trigger binge eating.

If they do, it’s a sign that there are deeper reasons for out-of-control eating and weight loss fails.

Now, healing your emotions isn’t the absolute cure-all. Your body, brain, and physiology all affect weight loss and binge eating (as we talk about a lot here on the blog).

But for best results, take it one step further. Be aware of the behind-the-scenes role that unresolved emotions might be playing, and respond accordingly.

Now, once again, perfect emotional healing is not necessary for success! All you need is to become aware of your emotions. Then start working with them instead of fighting them.

That means taking the process one step at a time.

Now, this can be confusing if you haven’t gone deep into your emotional world yet. But I promise that you can do it–and I know that we can help!

Click the image below where I’ve got a special gift for you! We call them, “Craving Cards”, and they’re one of our most popular tools!

If you ever feel night time cravings, sugar cravings, the urge to just say “screw it I’m going to start my diet over tomorrow”, or like you need a little body confidence pick me up… 

Just grab a card, go through the prompts, and shift it instantly!

Click the image above and let me know where to send them!

You’ll also get mini demo video training sessions for each card where I share how to use the cards and some of my best tips for food freedom forever!

With our Craving Cards and Demo Series… 

You’ll learn how to stop cravings in their tracks, feel confident, and get back your power, fast! 

Love,
Brittany

PS: Want the exact freedom and ease with our foods that myself and thousands of our clients get to experience?

In our Beating Binge Eating Blueprint (BBEB), I show you how to make this happen in just 8 weeks!

Many of our students have seen a DRASTIC difference in as little as a few days!

It’s our signature program, and up until recently, it was $3000 or more to join.

For now, you can get it as a part of our Food Freedom Collection for practically free by clicking the image below!

There is no catch…every resource I’ve created for food freedom and body confidence will land straight in your if you just click that image below and let me know where to send it!

3 Ways To Stop Stressing Over Food (And Take Back Your Life!)

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Sometimes the harder you try to make something stop, the more it takes over your life. That’s unquestionably true when it comes to food. Or more specifically, anxiety about every bite of food that you eat.

Seems like the more you think about food, the more anxious and frenzied food makes you feel.

Maybe you just need to stop thinking about food, you tell yourself. But be honest–has demanding that the food-obsessed thoughts cease and desist ever helped?

I’m willing to bet that’s a NO.

I also know that if food-centered anxiety has been dominating your thoughts, you’re in good company.

For years I thought that to stop food fear from hijacking my life, all I had to do was stop thinking about food.

I bet I can guess what you’re thinking…good luck with that, right? Because we all no what happens when we tell ourselves NO.

It’s like someone insisting that you don’t watch that TV show, wear that outfit, or look at that car wreck. Our brains never seem to get it.

You probably know through trial and error that you can’t demand your way out of food anxiety. That’s simply not how the brain works.

But if just saying NO to triggering food thoughts doesn’t stop the food fear, what will set you free?

If you’re serious about shutting down food anxiety without forcing yourself into change (which never works!), today’s post is for you!

In this video, I’m sharing three ways knock out food fear for good, no forcing or demanding required!

I’ll show you how to take that time and energy back from food-based fear, so that you can create the space for the things you’d rather be thinking about!

Ready to set yourself free from food worry once and for all? Then watch this video below!

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Step 1: Feed your body (and your mind!) Right now, I could tell you a million different ways to shift your thoughts away from your next meal. But if your body and brain aren’t sure that there will even be a next meal, mindset strategies won’t do a thing for you.

Here’s the thing. If you’ve been restricting your calories, cutting your carbs, or otherwise following a diet, your body might be running on empty. And without your knowledge.

So take care of business first. Be sure that you’re giving your body the nutritional love that it needs so that it isn’t genuine hunger driving your food fears.

That means eating enough food (yes, enough food!). It also means eating a variety of foods so that your body gets a vast array of nutrients to keep it happy.

There’s another reason why eating enough is so crucial.

Any time you restrict your food, it causes your brain to be legit worried that your body won’t be fed. That’s enough to trigger a psychological food-fear fest to go along with the physiological one.

But when you meet your body’s nutritional needs on the regular, you not only support your body, but you also build trust. Your brain learns to trust that you won’t let your body starve, which can relieve even more anxiety.

Now, here’s a little disclaimer. A lot of expect this step alone to cure all binge eating, emotional eating, and food struggles. Unfortunately, there’s a little more to it than that!

But this first step must be in place before any other strategies will help. So first things first.

Start with the basics.

Love your body, eat enough food, and create a trusting partnership with your body. It’s the foundational step to knocking out those stressful food thoughts for good.

Step 2: Stay in the moment with food. It’s a familiar story. Your breakdown, eat a cookie, then spend the rest of the day paying for it. In food-focused thoughts, that is!

Have you ever eaten something “bad,” then decided that the day is shot, so you go on a food bender for the rest of the day and promise to start over tomorrow?

Yeah, me too. That was my go-to strategy for years. Then I realized that this makes as much sense as getting a flat tire, then slashing the other three and promising to buy yourself a brand new set the next day.

Still, everyone does this at some point. It’s one of the ways that we step out of the moment with food. It’s one way that you either regret the past or fear the future.

Let’s look at a few more tactics that I bet you’ll recognize…

Maybe you feel guilty about overeating one day, so you “make up for it” by fasting the next day.

Or you know a holiday dinner or a party is coming up, so you skimp on calories all day in anticipation of an all-out calorie fest later.

One situation keeps in you stuck the past, the other worried about the future. They both put you in a place of restriction, shame, and judgment around food. Neither of them does much good for your body or your mind.

It all feeds the food-anxiety beast, and it’s based on things that have already happened, or haven’t happened yet.

However, if you focus on what your body needs in the moment, the past and future won’t be a factor. You’ll find more presence and peace in the NOW…and a lot less food stress.

So start there. When you sit down to eat, take a deep breath, let go as best as you can, and ask your body what it needs right now. Not yesterday, not tomorrow, but in THIS moment.

Step 3: Acknowledge (and release) the fears behind the food. Now, let’s get to a big-time food anxiety fact. Ready? Here it is…

It’s not the food itself that throws you into a panic. It’s what your mind believes that food will do to your body.

We’re talking about fear of losing control with food, falling into binging and gaining weight. The biggest factor here, of course, is the fear itself.

Choices based on fear invariably lead to one thing–more fear. In fact, if fear is your motivator, you end up in a place of scarcity, lack, and survival. And back to square one with food anxiety.

By now you’ve probably noticed a trend. After adequate fueling, it’s all about where you put your focus. And if you’re looking for less fear and more peace, the best place for your focus is in the present moment.

Let’s put all three steps together and kick food anxiety to the curb for good!

First, be sure that you eat to support your body’s needs. Do that by connecting with your body and determine what it needs each time you sit down to eat. Focus on the moment, not the past or the future.

Instead of making up for that bag of chips you ate at lunchtime by skipping a meal, ask yourself what food would support you in this moment. Rather than “saving calories” for a big night out, ask yourself what would honor the feelings you desire right now.

If you’re anxious, fearful, or judgmental while you’re in then present moment, remind yourself where these feelings come from. They’re based in a past that is gone or a future that has yet to arrive. They’re also based on old stories and beliefs that are tied to a survival mindset–and are likely not even true.

Staying in the moment is the greatest gift no matter what you wish to accomplish, and it can work all kinds of magic on food fears!

Not that it’s necessarily easy to do on demand, of course. After all, your mind can get it the way (and it frequently does). It takes practice and patience with yourself. And the entire idea might be a brand-new thing to you, too.

But you can master the present moment, and I can help!

Click the image below where I’ve got a special gift for you! We call them, “Craving Cards”, and they’re one of our most popular tools!

If you ever feel night time cravings, sugar cravings, the urge to just say “screw it I’m going to start my diet over tomorrow”, or like you need a little body confidence pick me up… 

Just grab a card, go through the prompts, and shift it instantly!

Click the image above and let me know where to send them!

You’ll also get mini demo video training sessions for each card where I share how to use the cards and some of my best tips for food freedom forever!

With our Craving Cards and Demo Series… 

You’ll learn how to stop cravings in their tracks, feel confident, and get back your power, fast! 

Love,
Brittany

PS: Want the exact freedom and ease with our foods that myself and thousands of our clients get to experience?

In our Beating Binge Eating Blueprint (BBEB), I show you how to make this happen in just 8 weeks!

Many of our students have seen a DRASTIC difference in as little as a few days!

It’s our signature program, and up until recently, it was $3000 or more to join.

For now, you can get it as a part of our Food Freedom Collection for practically free by clicking the image below!

There is no catch…every resource I’ve created for food freedom and body confidence will land straight in your if you just click that image below and let me know where to send it!

REVEALED: 3 Truths Behind The “Perfect” Lives of Influencers

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It’s one of the ultimate 21st-century problems.

You’re putting off a boring task (like folding the laundry). Against your better judgment, you plop down on the sofa, pick up the phone, and partake of that great American pastime…

Scrolling on Instagram.

The second you sign on, you see that blush-pink picture of the girl journaling on the beach, manifesting her dream life, and citing an inspirational quote.

Then there’s the photo of that perfect woman in that gorgeous outfit that she got from a sponsor for free, lounging on a yacht on a Tuesday morning while sipping a cocktail.

What about the photo of the mom who is rocking her hair and makeup while driving the kids in matching outfits to school in a brand new Range Rover?

You get the picture. (Literally.)

You scroll on, and your heart sinks. Then your mind goes into overdrive. It reminds you that you may never be as pretty, thin, rich, or Zen-like as everyone in your news feed.

But what if there’s more to each Insta-worthy moment than meets the eye? What if everything isn’t quite as perfect as it might look?

Today I’m giving you a behind-the-scenes look at Instagram influencers and Social Media Superstars. And along the way, I might expose some not-so-pretty truths about lives that look a little…too…perfect.

Quick disclaimer: I’m not playing sour grapes. I’m not knocking anyone who shares the highlights of their life on Social Media, either (we all do that, myself included)!

But what I do want is to free you from self-judgment. Because what you see on Facebook or Instagram is just part of that person’s story – it’s not the full thing.

You don’t have to hold your life to the standards you see on Social Media. Why?

Because–those standards aren’t even real!

Ready to learn the truth behind your favorite influencer’s Instagram highlight reel–and how to stop comparing it to your own behind-the-scenes reel? Let’s dive in!

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These days, people are getting more transparent and vulnerable on Social Media platforms.

Honesty and realness are slowly but surely becoming more common since the advent of things like Facebook lives and Instagram stories. This is the good news.

Then, there’s the rest of your news feed…

The perfect pictures, the constant happiness, the impossible standards, all on a 24/7 repeating loop.

Let me share three truths that just might change the way you feel when you’re scrolling…

Truth #1: Every picture tells a story (with an agenda). Here’s the deal. What you see in your news feed might look like spontaneous moments. But more often than not, they’re staged, hand-selected images.

No matter how truthful or authentic someone is, there’s usually an intention behind the snapshots. It’s a well-thought out picture with an agenda behind it, and it wants to make you take a specific action like enrolling in a program, buying a product, envying their lives to build their following so they get paid more for sponsorships to do the aforementioned in the future.

Sure, their agenda might be to inspire you. It might be to save puppies or trees. Or to sell you something that’ll change your life. But no matter how well-meaning a post is, it’s usually not off the cuff–a lot of planning went into it!

Now, don’t get me wrong– there’s nothing wrong with selling, portraying, or promoting anything (we do it here)!

But don’t let someone else furthering their own agenda make you feel like your life isn’t good enough.

What they’re posting is promoting their purpose. So remember not to take it too personally!

Truth #2: The picture doesn’t tell the whole story. Remember that picture of that guy in the hot car or that girl posing on a yacht with a cocktail? How about that woman with the perfectly symmetrical face and chiseled cheekbones?

What if I told you that they might not be sharing everything that went into that photo-op?

The truth is, many Social Media stars are doing a lot of prep-work before the camera clicks.

Because let’s be real–portraying an image on the internet can be a full-time job.

I know internet marketer guys who rent Lamborghinis and mansions as props for their video ads shoots and then claim them as their own.

There are tons of Instagram models who shape their faces with plastic surgery, face fillers, and wrinkle relaxers. Even with thick contoured makeup.

Now, full disclosure–I am not knocking things like bronzers, Botox, or body wraps. In fact, I’m a contoured makeup fan myself, I’ve had had botox in my forehead… I’m not saying that any of these things make someone a fake.

I’m just reminding you that nobody was born with a perfect face or an ideal body. Even the most stunning model doesn’t roll out of bed looking like a covergirl.

The pictures might look natural, but I promise that what you see is often more about the makeup and enhancements than the genes!

And for the one’s who are more natural with that look that you know I’m talking about, they are the rare 1%…God bless them! And it’s important to not compare ourselves to something that’s not naturally achievable for 99% of the population.

So keep that in mind if you wonder why you don’t look like your favorite Instagram celebrity when you wake up in the morning–believe me, nearly all of them (myself included) don’t either!

Truth #3: Highlight reels don’t show all that is real. We all want to share the good stuff in our lives, the things that make us happy. There’s nothing wrong with that.

But there’s one more news feed truth bomb that we all need to remember. More often than not, whether it’s an influencer with a million followers or your next-door-neighbor, we all share the highs over the lows.

In other words, we see just a small percentage of everyone’s life when we scroll through our favorite apps.

Let’s be real–even the happiest people on the internet aren’t in high-vibe harmony every minute of every day. Just because someone posts an inspirational quote in the afternoon doesn’t mean that they didn’t have an emotional meltdown that morning.

In fact, whenever I schedule my posts – sometimes I see my own one come out when I’m having a moment and think oh man, that’s not how I’m feeling right now.

No matter where someone lives, how sculpted their abs are, or how hot their car is, they have their moments. Guaranteed.

They wake up some days feeling less than perfect. They have insecurities, confusions, struggles, and dreams as we all do.

Again, choosing to share photos of their Zen-like beach walk over their emotional breakdown does not make them fake. It just means that the beach walk is a part of their life, not their entire life.  

Everyone has their dreams, struggles, wins, and losses. What anyone chooses to share on social media, celebrity or not, is up to them.

At the end of the day, remember that we’re all human, we all have our moments, and we’re in this life thing together!

Here’s the biggest thing of all–the more you let go of self-comparison, the freer you become.

You’re free to be you while letting everyone around you–even the social sedia superstar you’ve never met–be herself, too.

How liberating is that?

So what can you do to avoid comparison, take back your power, and scroll through Instagram with less stress?

Here are my top three steps to social scrolling freedom!

Step 1: Remember the purpose behind every post. Keep in mind that an a lot of posts are created to enroll you in something, sell you something, or trigger a feeling. There’s marketing, mindset, and psychology at play, and it’s all serving an agenda (even if it is a positive one)!

Don’t take any of it too seriously, or too personally. Build the resilience so so that you can stay in your power, no matter what anyone in your Instagram feed is doing.

Step 2: Decide what you want for yourself. If you decide to compare yourself to anyone, let it be you! By that, I mean the version of you that you want to be.

But this is the important part: reach for your dream life not by dwelling on what you don’t have, but by envisioning what you need right now to take the next step. Choose to align with the way you want to feel, and follow the people who inspire those feelings.

You don’t have live by the standards set by random influencers (who in reality may or may not be living their best lives) just because their post got 10,000 likes.

Decide what you want to feel, follow the accounts that bring on those feelings, and let go of the rest.

Step 3: Unfollow, unfollow, unfollow. The accounts you’re following might seem to be positive. But if there’s anything that triggers you or makes you feel less than, don’t feel obligated to keep them in your feed. Use that “unfollow” button for its intended purpose.

It’s what I call a “Social Media Detox,” and you might be due for one!

I strongly encourage you to take some time every now and then to give your online space a little energy check. Look at what is showing up in your newsfeed on the regular, and ask yourself truthfully how it makes you feel.

And if there’s a person, place, or thing you that does not bring you joy, just #KonMari it and hit that unfollow button!

Honestly, I’ve had to unfollow a lot of those motivational quote accounts, crazy as that might sound. Why?

The truth is that many of them just didn’t inspire me anymore. Some were even triggering for me, believe it or not because I’d think of how far I had to go to get “there”.

Here’s the thing. No matter who you are or how much success you’ve had, everyone has triggering moments. There’s no reason to keep those triggers around if they’re only bringing you down.

Life is challenging enough, and nobody needs energy sinkholes on their phone.

So if you’re following a recipe account that only makes you stress about food, unfollow it.

If there’s a fitness influencer that makes you second guess your weight loss journey, let that person go.

If there is anyone who makes you look at your life and say, “OMG, I’ll never be like her,” get them out of the scrolling loop, pronto!

I invite you to go through your news feed, eliminate the noise that steals your joy or drains your energy, and keep what lifts you up. That’s your assignment for today!

No matter what, let me assure you: where you are right now is perfect for you in this moment. Don’t allow anyone else’s journey make you feel like you’re behind in life.

Use what you see online as motivation, inspiration, or a chance to learn instead of a reminder of how far you have to go. And if someone’s posts steal your joy, just say NO and unfollow.

Keep your online space a loving, supportive, inspiring place for where you are now, and leave the rest!

Grab my free training at this link, and start living your journey to Food Freedom Forever!

So what do you think? Have you ever been triggered by the “perfect” lives of Instagram influencers, and do any of these truths surprise you? How about my tips to trigger-proof your Social Media feeds?

Can’t wait to hear your thoughts on this hot topic! Leave me a comment below!

How To Let Go of The Fear of Weight Gain So Weight Loss Can Actually Happen (and last)

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There was a time in which the food on my plate and the scale in my bathroom pretty much ruled my life by the way of fear.

I went through my day not focusing on the things that I loved, but immersed in the fear that no matter what I did, I’d gain weight. Or not be able to lose weight.

I yo-yo’ed up and down 40 pounds, and the longer that went on, the more fear-based and painful my world became.

That intense desire to lose weight and the paralyzing fear that I’d gain weight called all the shots for nearly 15 years. And those two emotions dictated so much of my life.

My food choices. Where I went and what I did. And didn’t do.

Everything came down to the fear of what I ate and how it made me look. My life was basically a 24/7 weight and food-based fear fest.

And in the process, I put myself through a lot of suffering. Binge and emotional eating. Health conditions like thyroid, kidney, adrenal, and hormonal imbalance challenges.

But now, I am thrilled to say that none of this rules my life anymore! I’ve released the weight and kept it off without dieting, have it easy with food, and feel good in my body no matter what my size is.

Best of all, stressing about food or my body size no longer keeps me from living my life, sharing my message, and loving myself!

But it wasn’t because my body suddenly became a fat-burning machine.

I didn’t do it with the ideal exercise and diet plan or a sudden burst of willpower, either.

If your weight is dominating your thoughts, beliefs, food choices, or self-image, then fear no more! I’m going to share with you how to break out of this weight-fear jail for good!

Ready to stop stressing over the bathroom scale and start living again?

Let’s do this!

How To Let Go of The Fear of Weight Gain So Weight Loss Can Actually Happen (and last)

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Step #1: Get real about the nasty effects of constant fear.

Maybe you’ve been attempting to control your weight for so long that you don’t know another way. But pause and reflect for a moment. What are the repercussions of these constant fears?

For one thing, these fears affect how you see the world. That is, do you see your world through a frame of love, joy, and support, or is it through fear, force, and worst-case scenarios?

It all depends on the “glasses” that you’re wearing. Let me share what I mean by that…

Let’s say I gave you a pair of blue glasses and you put them on. Everything would look blue, right?

Now, what if I gave you a pair of “OMG, I’m terrified to gain weight” glasses, how would that change your world view?

Everything you’d see would look like a possible threat. Something that would somehow, some way, make you gain weight. Or make it impossible to lose weight.

Instead of seeing the world as a fun, exciting place, you’d be spending your time convinced that weight-gain was your biggest enemy. And the battle against the weight-gain demons would take up all the bandwidth in your life.

It might sound like a silly example, but let’s be real…

What you focus on expands. And if you’re in constant terror about what the scale says, you’ll see more evidence of what you don’t want. You’ll focus on what you perceive as “wrong,” rather than what you truly want in life.

Wouldn’t you rather spend that time and energy in another way? I’m guessing that’s a “yes.”

Step #2: Stop fearing food. If you’re in fear that any “unhealthy” food is going to make you gain weight, you’re bound to make a few desperate moves.

You start cutting carbs. Slashing calories. Pushing yourself to stick to the super-healthy eating plan of the moment that the author calls a “lifestyle” (but is really just a diet).

We’re talking restriction. And if you’ve been with me for a while, you know what that gets you.  

It makes you think about food, crave more food, eat more food–and gain more weight. The very thing that you feared in the first place!

So this fear of weight gain triggers restriction of food which triggers a survival part of the brain that makes you think about food more and eat more!

AKA: Your fear of food, makes you actually want it more, which leads to exactly what you don’t want.

Step #3: Stop choosing what you eat from a place of fear. Now, you might be saying, “I don’t diet anymore. I just like healthy foods,” and you don’t feel like restriction is an issue for you anymore.

But believe it or not, there are other more subtle ways that you might be subjecting yourself to restriction–and feeding those weight loss/weight gain fears.

Let me ask you this: have you traded the physical control of a diet for mental or emotional restrictions on your food?

Here’s what I mean by that…

Have you ever fallen into guilt, judgment, or criticism after eating something, maybe saying something like “OMG, I shouldn’t have eaten that” ?

That’s an example of an emotional rather than a physical restriction.

If you ever plot or plan with food, like convincing yourself to eat something so that you don’t binge on it later, that is more of a mental restriction.

Even if you’ve overcome binge eating and stopped dieting, you might still be experiencing this kind of restriction or choosing food from a place of fear.

And as a result, still struggling with weight gain fear.

Many women I’ve worked with tell me that they’ve stopped binging and dieting, yet they still feel out of control with food. And it’s easy to see why.

The outside control may be gone. But the inner shame, restriction, and plotting are still fueling the weight-gain fear.

So whether the restriction is on your plate or in your head, it still leads to the same place. Food-focused thoughts. Rebound overeating. And more weight gain. The very thing that you fear the most!

Now, I will say this as a little disclaimer–it is OK to want to lose weight! The desire to lose weight in itself isn’t the issue.

But let’s reframe that desire.

I invite you to shift your focus from losing weight to healing your relationship with your body and food, and at a deeper level the relationship with yourself.

When you partner with your body, heal that relationship, and strengthen the connection with yourself, something magical happens.

You make the shift to weight loss an act of love rather an act of than fear.

You stop worrying about gaining weight or losing weight. Your body will adjust to its natural set point, and you find a healthy balance with a lot more ease.

Best of all, you won’t live in that place of fear anymore, and you’re free to live a life full of possibilities!

Speaking of fear, I know that sometimes ideas like this can sound pretty out there, and even intimidating.

After all, if you’ve been trying to control food most of your life like I was, this might sound like a whole lotta wishful thinking. Maybe even too good to be true.

But no matter how long you’ve been ruled by your scale, and no matter how long food-focused thoughts have dominated your life, you can do this!

You can get to a place where weight gain or weight loss does not define you. And we are here to help you do just that!

Click the image below where I’ve got a special gift for you! We call them, “Craving Cards”, and they’re one of our most popular tools!

If you ever feel night time cravings, sugar cravings, the urge to just say “screw it I’m going to start my diet over tomorrow”, or like you need a little body confidence pick me up… 

Just grab a card, go through the prompts, and shift it instantly!

Click the image above and let me know where to send them!

You’ll also get mini demo video training sessions for each card where I share how to use the cards and some of my best tips for food freedom forever!

With our Craving Cards and Demo Series… 

You’ll learn how to stop cravings in their tracks, feel confident, and get back your power, fast! 

Love,
Brittany

PS: Want the exact freedom and ease with our foods that myself and thousands of our clients get to experience?

In our Beating Binge Eating Blueprint (BBEB), I show you how to make this happen in just 8 weeks!

Many of our students have seen a DRASTIC difference in as little as a few days!

It’s our signature program, and up until recently, it was $3000 or more to join.

For now, you can get it as a part of our Food Freedom Collection for practically free by clicking the image below!

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You Know How To Lose Weight–Why Isn’t It Happening? The REAL Reason You Can’t Change (And How To Change That!)

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You have all the tips, tricks, and tools from all the weight loss gurus. You’re inspired, you’re motivated, and you’re raring to go. THIS time, you’re going to lose weight. For real.

But then the rubber meets the road. And just like that, all of your good intentions go right out the window. And you’re back to raiding the refrigerator at the end of the day.

You know what to do intellectually. But for whatever reason, you can’t follow through. Maybe you can keep it going for a day, a week, maybe even a month or two.

But sooner or later, you’re back where you started. No better off than you were a year ago…and maybe even worse off.

Pretty discouraging, to say the least!

Back in the day, I would wake up every morning feeling motivated, dedicated, and ready to take charge. I was going to stick to the diet, lose weight, and feel amazing.

Well, honestly, let me rephrase that…

Most days I woke up feeling bloated, exhausted, and ashamed after what I ate the night before. But then a switch would click, and I’d spring out of bed, ready to give that diet thing another try. And I would make it work this time!

But at the end of every day, I was elbow deep in a bag of chips. Again.

If this sounds at all familiar to you, read on!

It didn’t matter how many times I tried to change. It didn’t matter how much cutting edge diet and fitness information I had. Despite all of my knowledge and all my good intentions, I couldn’t change. At all.

It wasn’t until I learned what I’m about to share with you that the weight came off, and has stayed off for over five years.

(And spoiler alert: it wasn’t because I found a better diet!)

Just because you’ve never succeeded before doesn’t mean that you can’t change NOW. Let’s talk about why you keep hitting the diet wall, and how you can knock that wall down for good!

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If you’re new to my community, let me share a little background!

For years, I’ve helped women who’ve struggled for years with binge and emotional eating. Women who have tried to change, but could never make it stick.

I know this pathway because I’ve walked it myself.

I know how frustrating and hopeless it feels to know what you need to do, but feel powerless to make it happen.

It makes you feel defeated, broken, and beyond help.

But what if I told you that repeated diet failures doesn’t mean any of those things? All they mean is that you’re subject to the same fears as every other human being on the planet.

Here’s what I mean by that…

Let’s say that right now you’re considering a big change. Something like making peace with your body and your food.

Maybe you’ve been here on the blog (or our YouTube channel) and you’ve heard about our Food Freedom Forever program. And you’ve got an inkling inside that it might be the answer for you.

But then your mind kicks in, and the fear follows. Your inner self-talk starts telling you that it won’t work for you. That you’ve tried things like this before, and they’ve always failed.

You were considering a possible solution, but then you don’t take action. Fear and inner self-talk stops you from taking the leap. And your life stays the same.

What stops genuine and lasting change faster than anything else?

It’s this little thing called the upper limit. (Aka the “comfort zone.”)

It’s a familiar space that puts a cap on everything we allow ourselves to have–happiness, success, love, money–all of it.

It’s a safety zone. And everything that falls outside of this familiar space represents change.

And to your body and your brain, change is the enemy, even the good kind!

Your body and your brain take everything unfamiliar as a threat to your survival. And they vow do what it takes to keep you safe.

That means pulling you back into that comfort zone at all costs.

But does this mean that you’re stuck where you are because your body and brain will never allow you to change? Of course not! That’s the good news.

The answer is shifting your set point. It’s raising that upper limit to allow in the change that you desire.

So what does this mean, and what do you have to do to create a new normal for yourself?

First, let’s touch on why not too many people decide to challenge their comfort zone in the first place…

Sometimes, change is motivating and inspiring. But other times, it’s flat-out terrifying. And often even painful. And it’s a myth that it’s always going to be exciting and fun.

Fundamental change means letting go. It’s letting an old way of being die. And it means that everything shifts, from your emotions to your physiology.

Suppose that you’ve been living with perpetual stress and anxiety. But then someone shows up, waves a magic wand, and presto! You’re suddenly at peace.

How would your body and brain respond?

More than likely, it won’t be with a “thank you.” They’ll respond with shock, and scramble to get back to what they know. That means returning to a place of fear, even though that fear is painful.

Why? Because at least it’s familiar.

As humans, we tend to stay with what we know, even if what we know is as painful as binge and emotional eating. Your brain and body stick to what is familiar–unless you actively choose to change it.

And if you’re dealing with a stubborn upper limit set point, the most dangerous place to be is on the fence about change.

In other words, if you know better and you want to do better, but you remain indecisive about taking real action, lasting change will elude you.

And you’ll end up living the same day over and over again, just like I did for nearly 15 years. (Groundhog Day, anyone?)

But here’s the best news: you don’t have to change your whole life in one day to make a lasting impact! All you need to do is take one step.

It just takes one step past fear, resistance, and negative self-talk. And then another, and another. Before you know it, you’ll break past that upper limit and find a life beyond your comfort zone. That’s when it gets really exciting!

So what does life look like beyond your safety zone?

Now, I’m not going to lie. Change can be scary at any point along the way. You might encounter more resistance as you go further down the path. But that’s a normal part of life.

The important part is that you’re on the pathway. You’re out of survival mode, and back in your power. And the longer you stay in this place, the more that you’ll reach new heights of freedom, joy, and peace–and it gets easier with every step!

What might that look like from a Food Freedom Forever perspective?

Imagine moving through your life with excitement, doing the things that matter to you.

Imagine being free of food-focused thoughts and post-binge brain fog. No more anxiety over how you look or how you feel.

Imagine being free to embrace all of your life without worrying about what’s on your plate or what the bathroom scale tells you.

You CAN do it. All you need to do right now is take the first step to raise that upper limit!

So here is my plea to you…

When you’re contemplating that first step on the pathway to big change, don’t mistake resistance for intuition. Don’t listen to your brain’s response to a new idea. It’ll keep you paralyzed with thoughts of fear and indecision.

Instead, trust that little inkling of inspiration. The one that sees an opportunity for real change, and knows that this is the change that you need.

The ones who succeed in life are the ones who feel the fear, recognize the resistance, and take action anyway. They are the ones who end up living in freedom, happiness, and joy.

And there is no reason why you can’t be one of those people!

So let me ask you this–how much happiness can you handle? Can you allow yourself to thrive without resorting to self-sabotage? Can you move past the negative thoughts that keep you in familiar but miserable places?

I know that you can. And it’s time to raise the bar on your well being

If you need any support in this area, we are here for you! 

Click the image below where I’ve got a special gift for you! We call them, “Craving Cards”, and they’re one of our most popular tools!

If you ever feel night time cravings, sugar cravings, the urge to just say “screw it I’m going to start my diet over tomorrow”, or like you need a little body confidence pick me up… 

Just grab a card, go through the prompts, and shift it instantly!

Click the image above and let me know where to send them!

You’ll also get mini demo video training sessions for each card where I share how to use the cards and some of my best tips for food freedom forever!

With our Craving Cards and Demo Series… 

You’ll learn how to stop cravings in their tracks, feel confident, and get back your power, fast! 

Love,
Brittany

PS: Want the exact freedom and ease with our foods that myself and thousands of our clients get to experience?

In our Beating Binge Eating Blueprint (BBEB), I show you how to make this happen in just 8 weeks!

Many of our students have seen a DRASTIC difference in as little as a few days!

It’s our signature program, and up until recently, it was $3000 or more to join.

For now, you can get it as a part of our Food Freedom Collection for practically free by clicking the image below!

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