So you have a job interview, a wedding, or another big-time event on the calendar, but you’re dreading it worse than the Monday morning alarm clock. Why?
Because it means one thing–you need a new outfit. And yes, that means–UGH!–clothes shopping.
Sure, women supposedly love to shop. But let’s be real. Sometimes very thought of pulling something off the rack and staring down the two-sided mirror in the dressing room steals your shopping joy before it starts.
Those fluorescent lights and funhouse mirrors make fitting rooms feel like personalized torture chambers. They highlight every bump, bulge, and flaw that you’ve ever noticed. And magnify them all about 10 times.
Add in the sting of negative body image and food-based struggles, and you might blow off Nordstroms or Macy’s altogether (or at least until you drop 20 pounds…)
But what do you do when you need (or want) something new, but the fitting room phobia won’t let you go?
Most of us do one of two things…
We force ourselves into a size too small as a “reminder” that we need to lose weight. Or, we deny ourselves something new at ALL until we’re the “right” size.
I’m here to tell you that you deserve FAR better than either alternative!
The truth is that you deserve to feel good about yourself NOW. No matter what a scale, the mirror, or your worried mind might tell you.
Don’t let the scary mirrors, bad lighting, or shaky self-confidence deny you the chance to feel amazing. Stop waiting for the scale to grant you permission for a spirit-lifting new outfit. I’m going to show you how to reclaim your right to shop–no matter how you feel about your body!
Watch now to learn how to hit the mall with confidence no matter what the scale or the mirror says!
Let’s get into that right now!
First of all, where does this idea of waiting until you’re a certain size to buy something new come from? Do we all secretly love that much to bully ourselves into change?
Probably not. But the idea stems from a pervasive mindset that works its way into everything in our lives–money, love, career, health, you name it.
It’s the notion that you have to wait to receive anything until you you’ve achieved something else first. Like you don’t deserve to be happy until you hit the mark with something.
Or in other words, “I’ll be happy when…” And that “when” could be anything…
“I’ll be happy when I lose weight, have the perfect relationship, land that dream job…”
In the case of new clothes, it’s denying yourself anything new until your body looks like you think it should.
Tell me if you’ve been through this one…
You gain a few pounds and go up a size or two. But instead of buying something that fits, you force yourself into an old pair of jeans or a dress that barely allows you to breathe.
I bet you can guess the rationale for this kind of self-torture.
If you buy something that fits, you’re granting yourself permission to be that new size. You’re sending the message that weight gain is OK.
BUT, if you’re reminded of those extra pounds by a tight dress or stifling jeans, it’ll motivate you to stay on track, right? So wait until you lose the weight, THEN go get your dream dress.
As mean-spirited as it feels, it sounds logical, doesn’t it? But at the end of the day, this strategy turns out to be more brutal than honest.
Let’s talk about why that is.
You might think that you’re motivating yourself to be “better.” But what you’re doing is sending the message that you’re not good enough yet.
You’re saying that you deserve to walk through the world in discomfort because of the shape of your body. It’s saying that you don’t deserve better until you are better.
It’s lack-based mentality at its finest, yet it’s the path that most of us take when we’re feeling bad about how we look.
But the irony is that this attitude can leave you not only feeling miserable, but also putting on more weight!
Here’s what I mean by that…
When you’re faced with the real-time evidence that your favorite jeans no longer fit, it can make your heart sink and your ego crash. Pretty soon, you’re spinning down a shame spiral of defeat.
You feel like you’re too far gone to get your old body back. Maybe even that you deserve to feel this way for letting yourself go.
It can leave you thinking, “why bother?” You may as well just binge, overeat, and be done with it, right?
That leads to more weight gain. More misery. And plummeting confidence.
Trust me, this is a road that I know all too well. It took me years to understand that trying to change using fear, restriction, and denial would keep me stuck where I was. Or worse, backfire.
Eventually, I had a change of heart and a shift in perspective. And I decided to start thinking about my food, body, and clothes in a new way…
Instead of focusing on how far I thought I had to go, I shifted to the feeling the joy of being there already. Whether I was technically “there” or not.
I decided that no matter what my size was, I deserved to feel good in my body and my clothes. And that I didn’t need to deny myself something new until I’d “earned” it.
That’s when my mind, spirit, AND body began to change!
I know, that sounds easier said than done. But let me share why this idea is SO effective…
When you dress in clothes that you love, it gives you confidence. And when you feel alive, empowered, and amazing, that you soon forget if the tag inside says S, M, or L. (True story!)
Compare that to how you feel when you push yourself into something that restricts your breathing just because the size on the tag is the “right” one.
Tell me truthfully–which outfit would you rather wear?
Here’s the deal…you don’t attract what you want. You attract what you ARE. And if you’re living in a place of scarcity, discomfort, and lack, you’ll bring more of that to your door.
But the cool part is that the opposite is true, too!
When you feel good, you raise your vibration. Your confidence grows. And you start to draw even more awesomeness into your life–including the body that you envision!
Believe it or not, buying clothes that fit and make you feel amazing won’t keep you stuck at your current weight. It’ll actually set you up for the body AND the life that you desire!
Of course, if body shame has had made you hide from department store dressing rooms for years, this 180° attitude change might be a tall order. So let me share a tip that’ll make this shift a lot easier…
The next time you catch a look in a dressing room mirror that screams “cellulite” and that familiar fear hits you again, don’t worry. It happens. Be gentle with yourself, and remember this…
It’s not the grown-up part of you that lets the mirror judge her worth. It’s the scared, insecure little girl within. The girl who picked up the idea that her worthiness of is determined by her size.
And while she might be a part of you, she’s not the empowered, amazing woman who you are today.
But when she does show up, don’t push her down or make her wrong for feeling the way she feels. Just be with her. Then, assure her that there is nothing to fear.
Tell her that she is safe, loved, and worthy of what she desires right now, no matter what her size.
Then the next step is to take action!
That means reaffirming your personal truth. Remember that you DO deserve to feel like a million bucks, and you don’t have to wait for the scale or the mirror to approve!
So find something that makes you feel comfortable, empowered, and inspired–whether it’s form-fitting or loose and flowy. Even if it’s simply a perky color of lipstick or a jazzy new accessory, treat yourself–and savor every bit of it!
Bottom line, you were NOT put on this earth to struggle. You are here to feel happy, be empowered, and do things that matter to YOU.
You are here to make a positive impact on the world, not live in constant and uncomfortable pursuit of someone else’s idea of beauty.
So no matter what anything or anyone tells you–the dressing room mirror, the scale, or the naysaying of your worried mind–own your right to feel good.
Now, here’s the thing. I get what it’s like to be in the trenches of the body battle. That fitting room phobia can be so debilitating that it might feel next to impossible to overcome. I know because I lived that battle for over a decade.
But I then I discovered that I didn’t have to shame myself into change. And once I embraced that idea, not only did I feel amazing again, but the change I was looking for came to me!
I did it, and I know that you can, too. That’s why I created something to help you stop waiting to be happy, and feel free to hit the mall NOW!
At the link below, I invite you to join me for a free training designed to help you embrace your best self TODAY.
Just think–how would it feel to be free to hit up a department store for new clothes ANY time?
Imagine a life without punishing. Without pressure. And without waiting until you’re a certain weight to live your life.
Ready to start feeling energized, alive, and deserving of your best life TODAY? Get that training at the link below!
Now, I’d love to hear from you! Have you ever been freaked out by the fitting room (like just about every single woman in the entire world)?
Are you ready to let go of that fear and start treating yourself to the clothes that will lift your spirits TODAY?
Leave me a comment and tell me that you’re ready to feel amazing NOW!