January is back again. And if you’ve been watching TV, going online, or even just had contact with other humans, you know that New Year’s resolution marketing is everywhere, with the number one resolution being the desire to lose weight…
That usually entails a parade of ads for the latest fat-burning supplements, miracle diets, and insane workouts. All on a 24-hour loop everywhere you look.
But well-intended resolutions and diets have one thing in common–more often than not, they fail. And fail miserably.
If you don’t think so, check out your local gym the first week of the year. And then check back three weeks later. Most gyms go from Grand Central Station to ghost towns in less than a month.
So why are resolutions so unreliable?
Resolutions are about actionable surface level items, like diet and exercise. And they rely on willpower to make them work.
But at the end of the day, lasting change doesn’t come from outside actions alone. Especially when the root causes of the problem can’t be seen just by looking.
So what does it really take to make those resolutions work out in your favor?
Behind every person who has successfully lost weight without having to continually fight their body and fight fight cravings is one thing: a peaceful, normal relationship with food.
In other words, all the outside actions in the world won’t help if you’re at war with your body on the inside and your internal world about food and weight is all over the place.
That is the real reason why New Year’s resolution fails are the stuff of cliche!
But what does a “peaceful relationship with food” even mean, and how can you create one for yourself? Why is it so important have food as an ally rather than an enemy?
That’s what we’re going to talk about today!
Watch the video below to learn how to turn food from a foe into a friend–and how this simple shift will trump ANY 21-Day Workout challenge or 24-hour weight loss cleanse, and get you results that actually last!
You know those rare unicorns who eat when they’re hungry and stop when they’re full? The person who can enjoy one cookie without the urge to finish the bag?
It’s that friend who gravitates toward wholesome foods, yet doesn’t deny themselves an occasional treat. They don’t force themselves to eat “healthy” foods, yet never seem to fight cravings for the “bad” stuff.
We’re talking about that person who enjoys food without making a “thing” out of it. They’re healthy, balanced, and happy.
That’s what I call a “normal” relationship with food.
Right now, you might be thinking that this could never be your normal.
But I want you to know that it can be. And it just might be easier than you think to get there!
I was convinced that my relationship with food would always be strained, forceful, and obsessive.
Now, food is a non issue in my life. I think about it when I’m hungry. I enjoy it. I can have a treat without wanting to finish them all. True story.
All it took was the willingness to go beyond the usual diet and exercise song-and-dance. And making the internal shifts that got me the external results (instead of the other way around)!
So what does it take to turn your relationship with food into a lifelong romance?
Let’s start with why it really is what’s inside that counts.
Human beings tend to be automatic creatures. We operate by routine, patterns, and autopilot. We usually go through the day completely unaware of what’s happening under the surface.
But it’s under the surface where the patterns that dictate our behaviors live. And under the surface is usually the last place that we look!
Then every year, New Year’s resolutions make their appearance. People think that if they stick to their January promises, the weight will finally fall off.
And year after year, it’s the same old epic fail.
You stick with the diet a few days, a week, maybe a month. And then your willpower snaps, you throw in the towel, and you’re back where you started.
What’s going on here?
Turns out that a traditional diet based New Year’s Resolution is a band-aid on a broken bone. They only address the outer-driven actions and miss the subconscious shifts that must take place for transformation to last for life.
So what are these under-the-radar culprits that are keeping you stuck in a dead-ended relationship with food–and how do you stop them for good?
That’s what we’re going to shift into right now!
First, let’s talk about conditioning.
Conditioning is nothing more than the messages that you’ve received over the years. It could be messaging from your parents, the media (that includes Social Media), society, or anything else in your external environment.
It’s the things in your outer world that shape the way you perceive the world.
Let’s look at a few examples…
Perhaps you grew up with a mother who struggled with food, and you took on her beliefs about weight loss. Maybe images of “perfect” women on TV, Instagram, or the gym that made you value appearances above all else.
If any of that sounds familiar, rest assured you’re not alone!
I’ve worked with many women who have shared similar stories, and I have a few conditioning tales of my own.
One belief that governed my life for over a decade was that life is easier when you’re skinny. I believed for years that if I wanted love, connection, or attention, I had to be a certain size. Or else.
Naturally, it didn’t take long to see weight loss as the ultimate goal–and food as public enemy number one.
So I set off on a quest to lose weight at all costs. It led to freakish dieting. Crazy food rules and restrictions.
And of course, food morphed into a massive monster that ruled my life with an iron fist.
But the craziest part was that the food itself that wasn’t the problem. It was the belief that I had to be a certain size or risk a miserable, lonely life.
You can imagine how that colored my judgment about my daily sustenance!
Of course, that kind of self-imposed stress leads to powerful emotions. And then emotional eating is not far behind.
So just like that, internal conflicts trigger external behaviors. Emotional eating leads to weight gain, weight gain leads to stress, which leads to more eating…
You get the picture!
It’s your mindset, beliefs, and emotions on the inside ultimately dictate what happens on the outside. And no amount of diet and exercise alone can turn the tide on what’s happening inside.
There’s conditioning. Subconscious beliefs. Emotions. It’s a combination of energetic quantum physics, the Law of Attraction, and the external behaviors that result. All of which are things that can’t be altered by diet and exercise alone.
That’s the real reason why resolutions, diets, and the usual rules don’t work.
But once you shift what’s happening under the radar, something magical happens.
You let go of the conditioning that is holding you back. You’re free to reprogram your beliefs, manage and process your emotions, and shift your mindset.
These things make up what we call a “subconscious blueprint” and this is what governs how you relate to your body and food, your weight, and ultimately your life!
Don’t let the idea of a subconscious blueprint scare you. You have the power to change, and you’ve had it all along!
Here’s what happens when you reprogram your subconscious blueprint in your favor…
Know that when you shift that blueprint, you end the food fight. No more crazy cravings. No more urges to numb out emotionally with a bag of chips. Food becomes your ally instead of your enemy. And peace with your body follows!
You begin to look at things and yourself differently, then your actions change from a deeply embodied place, thus creating sustainable change that actually lasts!
Losing weight and being at peace with your body IS possible. All you need is to identify what’s happening on the inside, and shift that subconscious blueprint to your favor.
That’s what I’m here to help you do!
I’ve created a training to help you make a real change this year. It’s made to help you let go of your fight with food, break free from food anxiety, and stop your food struggle for good.
If you’re ready to make a resolution that sticks this year, this is for you! Join me for my LIVE “Love your Body & Lose Weight Without Dieting” training, and make 2019 your year for Food Freedom Forever!
You’ll get free admission to the training by joining us in our “Smash the Scale” Challenge below!
Have you ever felt like food was your worst enemy, and does the idea of turning food from a foe to a friend sound like the ultimate dream?
Leave me a comment and let me know if you relate–and tell me how I can support you on your journey to Food Freedom Forever!