We all know that the body positivity movement has helped millions of people feel more empowered in their skin. That’s a great thing!
But let’s be real. Healing from a lifetime of body image issues isn’t necessarily as easy as just following a hashtag or saying a few positive affirmations.
The idea of loving your body is all well and good. But what if despite this positive self-talk, you still cringe every time you look in the mirror because you’re not a size zero?
If you secretly still wish to be thin, does that mean you’re superficial or too hung up on your looks?
The answer is NO. Believe it or not, your desire to be thin is likely about more than looking cute in form-fitting clothes. Really.
What if I told you that there’s a secret force that is triggering you to hate your body?
I know that sounds a little bit out there, but stay with me on this one.
It’s an under-the-radar idea that has been passed down through the collective consciousness for years, and it’s become a staple of societal conditioning.
This force makes you reject yourself if you fall outside the pre-approved beauty standards.
It triggers you to go on quests to be thin at all costs. And it ultimately leads you to an endless cycle of food struggles, weight gain, and self-rejection.
Sounds like a wild conspiracy theory, right? But this force is a thing. And it’s been wreaking havoc on our lives for a long time.
Does this mean that it has the power to keep you stuck in a body-hating battle forever?
You can free yourself from those under-the-radar vibes that keep you stuck in the food-obsessed, body-loathing Matrix.
But first, need to know what that under-the-radar menace is! That’s what I’m sharing with you today.
What is that veiled set of rules, and how can you stop it from pushing your self-rejection buttons once and for all?
Today I’m revealing the truth behind that all-powerful desire to be thin, and what you can do to take your power back–and love your body at ANY size!
Let’s start with the facts. Like it or not, sometimes public opinion has more power than we realize. It influences a lot more than what’s popular on Instagram or what shoes are in style this season.
The power of collective thinking has been influencing the planet at a deep level for a long time.
Let me explain what I mean by that…
WAY back in the day, people were up against harsh conditions in their physical environments.
No electricity, no running water, no grocery stores–you get the idea.
When battling to survive was the reality, being part of a tribe was literally a matter of life or death. If you were part of the tribe, you were protected. But if you were cast out and left to survive on your own, your chances of making it were pretty slim.
The message was clear–the lone wolf dies, the pack survives. So you better be accepted by the pack.
Of course, life in the 21st century is a lot less harsh in that way. But those ancient triggers still torment us today, and in the most unexpected ways.
They get you in shopping mall dressing rooms, at the dinner table, and when you’re scrolling Instagram, comparing yourself to everyone you see.
Those subconscious messages from eons ago show up in our 21st century lives through a thing I call “tribe mentality.”
Tribe mentality is the notion that you must be accepted by the tribe if you want to survive. It’s those subconscious triggers that make you believe that it’s either fit in or perish. And those old triggers have been part of the collective consciousness for centuries.
Only nowadays, it’s more about emotional acceptance than physical survival.
So if TV, social media, and popular opinion says that fitting in means being thin, how does the primordial, tribe-based part of your brain respond?
It tells you that if you don’t look right, you’ll be cast out. You’ll be denied acceptance, love, partnership, connection–all your core human needs–if you don’t comply with the standard.
Believe it or not, your brain and body take this as a genuine threat to your survival.
Sounds a little bit dramatic, doesn’t it? But those deep-rooted survival fears are still part of our human experience–even if the threat of physical death isn’t in the picture as much anymore.
Viscerally and subconsciously, a wish to be thin is more about fitting in, being loved, and staying safe. Whether we recognize it or not, we all equate thinness with our survival at some point.
These subconscious messages that tell us to fit in or get kicked out have morphed into that secret force I’ve been talking about.
I call this secret force “diet culture.”
Diet culture dictates that key to happiness is fitting in–and to fit in, you better look a certain way. It’s the mentality that one size really DOES fit all. And if you don’t fit that size, you’ll be judged, ridiculed, criticized–or worse, rejected by society.
The world does its best to back up these crazy claims, too.
Think about it. Most clothes in stores are constructed for a narrow range of body shapes and sizes. Models, Social Media Influencers, people on TV–they all fit the mold.
And quite frankly, it’s an unfair and unrealistic mold for most of us!
But diet culture doesn’t stop there…
First, it tells you how you should look. Then the diet industry swoops in with a shiny new eating plan to answer all of your fear-based thinness prayers.
Then, marketing monsters prey on your fear.
They promise that their plan will make you lose weight. And then suddenly you’ll be loved, accepted and acknowledged–and safe. (Of course, they never flat-out say it that way…)
Needless to say, you desperately try to make that diet work. You and I both know how that usually turns out, right?
Yet no matter how often the conventional methods fail, we keep trying, buying the idea that thinness equals happiness. For some of us, that becomes an obsession with fitting the ideal body image perfectly.
At one point, I fiercely believed that once I was the right size, rainbows and unicorns would fall from the sky. I’d finally be loved, accepted, and happy. All I needed to do was lose weight, and all my worries would vanish.
I did everything I could to get there, too. I even got into fitness competitions to ensure I was taking my weight loss convictions seriously.
Funny how not even that was enough for me…
Despite that I was strutting on the fitness stage strutting with the best of them, I wasn’t satisfied. I wouldn’t even let my family take my picture because I believed that didn’t look good enough yet.
That’s what the diet culture can do to your psyche if it goes unchecked. You end up chasing an impossible standard of perfection that you’ll never quite meet.
At the end of the day, diet culture acts as a mental time machine that takes you back to the day when not fitting in meant certain death. So it’s look the right way, or else…
Now, what if I told you that no matter how powerful these primordial beliefs feel, you are more powerful than they are?
Here’s the truth. You don’t have to be thin to fit in. You don’t have to be a certain size to be loved. You definitely don’t have to look a certain way to survive.
Sure, it’s OK to want to lose weight. But remember that healthy, energized, beautiful bodies come in all shapes and sizes. It’s not “one size fits all,” no matter what diet culture says!
The key is making peace with your body type, and knowing that no matter what, you are enough.
After years of being under the influence of diet culture, though, that might sound like a lot to ask. That’s where the techniques that we teach and Beating Binge Eating come into play!
It’s about connecting into alignment with your mind, body, and spirit. It’s about knowing what you need to feel amazing in your skin, not what some Instagram influencer tells you that you need. It’s about appreciating your body and all that it does for you, every day.
Most of all, it’s about creating the body and life you adore, not trying to follow the rules of a tribe that no longer exists!
These days, I take care of my body. I eat according to its needs, and I exercise. But I no longer choose broccoli over bread because I’m scared I’ll put on an extra pound. I don’t obsessively run to the gym every day for fear of missing a workout and falling off track.
Now, I know what I desire in life, and I take care of myself in every moment. I’m not willing to torture myself to fit anyone else’s idea of attractiveness. I love the body I’m in, even though it might have a bit more cellulite than I did in my fitness model days.
And guess what? I’ve never been healthier or happier!
Tribe mentality and diet culture don’t rule my life anymore. They don’t have to have a say in your life anymore, either!
How would it feel to let go of unrealistic expectations, disempower diet culture, and feel incredible in your body?
Imagine no longer needing to try every fad diet or crazy workout in a desperate attempt to change your body.
Think of how it would be to know that you are loved, worthy, and safe, no matter what your size.
Imagine being impervious to the deep dark triggers that make you hate your body.
You can do it–and I’m here to help!
Let me show you how to live your life feeling energized, inspired, and balanced within your body!
I’ll show you how to turn food into an ally instead of an enemy. And you’ll learn to appreciate YOUR body for what it is and without fear of rejection or ridicule!
You don’t need to change to be loved. You don’t need anyone else’s approval to feel safe. You deserve to feel comfortable, energized, and happy in your body right NOW.
You can have all of these things–click the link below and let me show you how!
Now I want to hear from you!
Secret forces, diet culture–how does it all land with you? Does it sound scary, crazy…or does it all make sense?
Tell me what you think, share your comments, and ask me anything!
Share your thoughts in the comments below, and tell me how I can empower you to resist diet culture, and live a life you love in a body that you adore!