Are Weight Loss and Weight Gain Freakouts Ruling Your Life?
Does the word “weight” send shivers down your spine? You’re not alone.
And You’re Not Sure How To Stop The Craziness for good? Read On!
Let’s talk about a 4-letter word: WEIGHT. Yeah OK, fine, that’s a 6-letter word. But weight is definitely a “4-letter word” if you struggle with binge eating, emotional eating, or any kind of triggers with food.
It brings up visions of scary numbers that flashes when you step on the bathroom scale that have the potential to make or break your day.
Listen up beautiful, it doesn’t matter if you’re terrified of gaining weight or that you can’t lose weight. Any situation involving the scale can crank up your emotions and send you into the throes of body image obsession. Which is totally understandable.
The sad truth is that tunnel vision you have about how you look on the outside can make you lose touch with who you are on the inside and drag you down the rabbit hole.
So what happens to this body positivity thing where you’re supposed to follow… “love your body” as is? It seems like a sweet enough idea, right? But even the most well-meaning advice has a not-so-nice flip side to it.
The anti-weight loss message gets steamy at times. Sometimes so much that it unconsciously shames people desiring to change their body! Is this just me or have you experienced something similar too?
Here’s the reality: Falling into an obsessive weight-loss quest is NOT the way to live your life. BUT neither is being shamed by some coach or influencer for wanting to drop a few dress sizes. Both are weight wars that you can’t win.
If you’re tired of the “weightiness” of these extremes, I’m about to give you the real story on weight.
You’ll learn why it’s OK to want to lose weight. But you’ll also find out how making weight loss your sole focus will backfire for sure.
This week’s blog has all the juicy details you need to know about how weight loss fits into breaking free from binge and emotional eating, and how to make them work together like a charm.
Everything you do in your food freedom journey will start to feel purposeful and it’ll become so much easier once you start focusing on what really matters. Keep reading! Let’s talk about all things weight–the good, the bad, and the TRUTH.
Now, let me tell you one thing straight-up. There’s nothing wrong with desiring to lose weight. It’s especially true if the weight came from years of self-torture (aka dieting and binging and starving on repeat).
You see, weight gain often occurs from treating your body in ways that are out of alignment with the real you.
Take me, for example. I was once 40 pounds heavier than I am now. I had a raging desire to lose weight, which triggered me to an all consuming pattern of binge and starve every day. Trust me, the results were not pretty. (Think inflammation, acid reflux, digestive and hormonal issues, adrenal failure–the whole nine yards!)
That 40 pounds accumulation was because I was desperate to lose weight. See what happened? This led me to behaviors that turned me into someone I couldn’t recognize.
(And believe me, those behaviors and mindsets were solid, no matter what I looked like. Whether I was 40 pounds overweight or shredded like a fitness model, I tortured myself to lose weight. All. The. Time.)
So it’s OK to want to release the weight that came from NOT being true to yourself.
Now, here’s the flip side.
What’s NOT OK is to reject yourself completely during the weight loss journey. It’s not OK to deny yourself love, acceptance, and care until the scale gives you the number you think you need. I’ve been there, done that and felt like a big failure.
Most of all, it’s not OK to let the weight loss focus turn into a full-scale campaign that consumes your entire life. Weight loss fixation can hijack your mental, emotional, spiritual and physical well-being–and usually fails on top of all that!
Read the reasons below to understand why this happens:
Weight loss plans mean DIETS. Am I right or am I right? Dieting means restricting your food. When you control your food, no matter how “healthy” your plan is, your brain hears one thing: food is scarce, and it’s survival time!
Sure, your logical mind knows that cutting a few calories won’t make you starve. But the part of your brain in charge of keeping you alive hits the panic button and triggers you to do one thing–eat. And the results can be disastrous.
Constant food-focused thoughts.
Triggers to overeat. More cravings.
You’re more susceptible to emotional eating.
Uncontrolled autopilot eating starts happening.
All your systems get disrupted.
All these things lead to just one thing and it’s something you don’t want to hear: Weight GAIN–the exact opposite of why you even started the diet in the first place!
Now, think about this. What if you turned that quest for weight loss into a quest for self-love?
If this sounds impossible, stay with me for a sec and I’ll show you how shifting your focus can cause polarizing shifts in your life!
It starts with body acceptance. Accept where your body takes you on its journey to food freedom. That might mean immediate weight loss, it might not. But it WILL mean more balance, peace, and happiness in your life.
Believe it or not, sometimes the way to release the weight is being OK with whether you lose weight or not!
I know, that sounds completely counterintuitive. But let’s use my journey as an example and you’ll see what I mean.
As I already mentioned, when I started my journey, I was about 40 pounds heavier than I am now. But instead of drilling down with a diet and workout plan to melt it away, I did something different.
First, I got my brain and body out of survival mode. That meant breaking the binge eating patterns in my brain. That was step one.
After that, my initial weight loss was pretty fast. But it soon slowed down to a point where my body held a steady weight. For about a year, I remained steady at about 8 or so pounds heavier than I am now.
Still, I stayed consistent with supportive eating habits for about a year. I stopped making weight loss the goal and focused on feeling amazing instead.
This led me to something unexpected (and miraculous!).
My body began to trust me and I fell in love with it. It knew now that I would give it all the nutritional support it needed. It no longer triggered me to binge just so I’d eat.
And lo and behold, my body released even more weight over time! Eventually, I arrived at the weight I’m at today, and I’ve never been happier.
Nowadays, I have an amazing and loving relationship with my body. But does this mean I love everything about my body 24/7? Of course not. I’m not gonna lie. I still have cellulite on my thighs that I wouldn’t mind releasing!
But here’s the kicker about that. I know that I could smooth out those dimples on my thighs with a few diet tweaks and workout upgrades. But am I going to let that bring me down? Hell no because I now know better.
Even if I burned it all off, it wouldn’t stay off for good. That’s because I know what it would take to keep it off for good.
It would mean forcing my body into a restrictive diet and a punishing workout. It would mean facing the food-obsessed thoughts, the cravings, and eating triggers. Again.
Is losing another 5-ish pounds worth all that risk? My answer is hell-freaking-NO.
I’d rather feel free, energized, and happy than obsessing over every bite just to burn off a little extra body fat.
How about you?
Nearly all of our clients have similar stories. Some of them have a little initial weight loss, some a lot, others not at all. But the more we work together, the more our clients all achieve the ultimate goal…
They heal their relationship with their bodies and food. The mental, emotional, and physical triggers disappear. That’s when true freedom (and oftentimes weight release) happens!
Breaking out of survival mode comes first and don’t tell anyone tell you otherwise. Then comes balance and harmony with your body. After that (and even as you go along), comes trust between you and your body.
Here’s the thing. Freedom is as much of an inner game as it is an outer strategy. Any quest to change your external life will be shut down if you’re fighting yourself on the inside.
I’m not saying you have to have your inner game perfect. You don’t need to “love your body” right away. Simply accept where you are now. Accept that your weight might take some time to sort itself out, and give yourself the gift of patience and love.
So the best way to lose weight in the long run? Stop focusing on weight loss! Stop the diet, kick the body image ideas to the curb, and focus on connecting with and honoring your body.
First things first. Focus on the journey to connect with yourself. Make optimal health, happiness, and vitality the goal, not a random number on a scale. That’s the path to Food Freedom Forever!
Now you might be saying this is all easier said than done, and you’d be right! I’m not saying this is always easy, and I can guarantee you that it doesn’t happen overnight.
I also know how scary this can be, especially if you’ve been on the diet roller coaster all your life. It took me literally years to get free. But the good news is that you CAN do it, and it doesn’t need to take you as long as it took me!
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